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Loss of Friendship

NovaCat227 November 9th, 2023

The last few weeks I've been pretty bummed out but today was the day I, in a way, said goodbye to a friend. This friend of mine I met very recently last year. And whether they know it or not they go me through this year. Seeing as I'm someone that tends to get lonely very quickly. They were such great company. Up until recently everything was awesome between us. I felt like we had the type of friendship where it felt like you have made a brother or sister out of them you know? One of those friendships that felt like they would last forever. But I guess that wasn't meant to be. They recently started ghosting me and unadding me on social. And I didn't say anything but I definitely noticed. And it did break me a little. Not knowing what I did to make them pull away hurts. So I had sent them my last message wishing them well and things like that. I thanked them for being a wonderful friend. And I don't know if I'll hear back from them but if I don't I feel like my words are now out there in the universe. And not stuck inside my heart. So I guess the moral of my little short story is that regardless of how strong the friendship felt, it's possible that it won't last forever. And I wish I could have them in my life just a bit longer. But that isn't up to me to decide. I just hope nothing but good things for my friend, or I guess ex friend now. But it'll definitely take me time to heal from this.

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toughTiger6481 November 10th, 2023

@NovaCat227

It is hard when you feel it is a great bond but it is fleeting.... i take all friendships as temporary and i guess that is cynical but it is less disappointing. 

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NovaCat227 OP November 10th, 2023

Your right and I think from now on I should just go into any future friendships with expectations low. And just appreciate the friendships I have already.

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peachFriend6548 November 10th, 2023

I'm so sorry...it is definitely a loss. I myself went from something similar recently. You miss all the good memories and hope to make more with them but life goes on and we move on with it even if we feel stuck.

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NovaCat227 OP November 10th, 2023

That's true I do feel very stuck right now but your right. Life goes on anyway. I'm trying to make myself feel better each day regardless of what hs happened it won't be easy but I know eventually this won't hurt anymore.

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BlossomGirvan November 10th, 2023

Wow, I have been where you are so many times. I make friends & put all my efforts into being an awesome friend only for them to loose interest in me & ignore me. You are strong for wishing them well & looking for ways to heal. Humans are odd & hard to understand. I never got why people think that others are disposable & suddenly decide to neglect the friendship for no good reason. So sorry you had to go through this. I wish I had the answers. I wish I could help you with the pain. The best thing is to not take it personally as hard as it is...

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NovaCat227 OP November 10th, 2023

Right? I will never understand it either. You talk to people thinking that they want that strong connection that you also want but it ends up not sticking. And then your left confused and hurt. But thank you I'm definitely trying not to. Whether it was something I did or not I am just trying to slowly move forward the best I can. And I'm sorry it's happened to you too it definitely sucks.

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