Loneliness and Isolation
Hi. I'm Abi, I'm 24, and I just moved to a brand new town. I don't know anyone here other than my immediate family and I don't have many friends as it is. I want to make friends where I live now, but I have no idea how to socialize, at all. I want to do it, but I find it so intimidating and frightening. I'd make friends at work, but my coworkers are all much older than me. I have no clue how to interact with people I don't know at all. What do I say? How do I approach them without being weird about it? Where would I even go to do this? I'm terribly lost on this subject and I've always struggled with it. I really need help, or I fear I might have no friends at all. What do I do about this?
@georgesbiscuits Hi Abi, firstly, I want to commend you for reaching out and expressing your feelings. It's completely normal to feel a bit lost and intimidated when trying to make new friends, especially in a new town. Remember, it's okay to take things at your own pace.
One approach could be to explore activities or events that genuinely interest you. This way, you'll naturally meet people who share similar hobbies or passions. Attend local gatherings, join clubs, or take part in community events where you can connect with others in a more relaxed setting.
When it comes to striking up conversations, you can start with simple greetings and small talk, it can lead to more meaningful conversations over time.
If you're feeling particularly nervous, remember that many others may be in the same boat, looking to make connections. It's okay to acknowledge your feelings and take small steps. Friendships often develop gradually, so be patient with yourself.
Lastly, trust your instincts and be kind to yourself throughout this process. Making friends takes time, and it's okay to embrace the journey. You're not alone, and with a bit of time you'll likely find your place in your new community.
Wishing you all the best on this new adventure!