@plumOak6862 Must be someone very important<3 It's understandable to think that way and it's alright to let yourself feel the feelings while going through it.
Hurt like that can feel like the end of the world but hurt like that also has a way of settling down with time, not saying that you won't feel it or it will just go away with time but you'll be able to work through it. Some days will be hard and it'll bring back the painful realisation and on some days you would barely notice it's presence.
Right now what matters the most is you. So take care of yourself, self care would be difficult but it's something your future you would appreciate <3
Thank you for this encouragement, it means a lot. Self-care is something I am really struggling with... Or perhaps choosing a wrong type? Somehow everything that I do just opens a bigger void in my heart. :(
@plumOak6862 There is no right way or wrong way to care for yourself when going through struggles<3 If distractions help then find things that brings your mind at ease, if talking helps them talk with someone you trust or you can also talk here ^-^ You are allowed to talk about your pain for as long as you want, as long as you need to<3 I'm so glad you're here.
I’m so sorry you feel this way @plumOak6862 but I know you’re strong and I know you will be okay 🥺! I can’t imagine the hurt you must be going through, but there are so many good days ahead and you will surely be okay soon 🫂!
Thank you for your kind response... I try! Some days go quite smoothly so I should probably call them good days... It would have been wonderful to share all my days with him. I don't even want to experience life with somebody else. :( People are urging me to move on, date again, forget, etc. but it's not even possible. Every part of my existence was intertwined with that person and they want me to throw it away as if it was just another unhappy story. :(
I feel you. I can't say I've been in the same situation but recently falling in love someone who I think is absolutely perfect and my soul mate I can understand how it would feel for me to lose her, I'd feel like the whole world has ended and I wouldn't be able to live without her. That said I really can't give the best advice as we have only recently got together and I wouldn't know what it would be like to lose her after a longer period of time together but I can imagine how it must feel. I think you need some time before you decide to date again time will heal and eventually you should be able to date again, it will be really hard and you will likely never get over it but try to embrace all the good memories you had together and not think about the bad ones. I'm not sure what happened exactly in your situation if they passed or left you? I'm sure you probably mentioned but I have forgotten and I can't read back while I'm typing this. If they passed then maybe telling yourself they are in a better place now could bring some comfort for you? It's worth a try. If they left you then obviously they weren't the one for you and your better off them leaving you earlier than later. I can't exactly relate to you but I can imagine how it must feel and hopefully my words have helped in some way. Feel free to message me if you ever need support
Hugs ❤️
@plumOak6862 I am going through the same thing and feel the same way. all these new things are happening in my life and i can’t fully be happy because i lost my person. blocked on everything except his main *** and he was fine staying in contact on there even though i told him it would make my feelings grow. once we hit 1 month being broken up i decided to text him the following day to see where his head was at due to us staying in contact for part of it and he said “i don’t think your mentally ready for a relationship” we were basically 6months when we broke up met each other’s families etc promise ring build a bear child all that
Sorry to hear about it
@plumOak6862 I’ve lost my mom I was young all I can ask is for my best friend
it’s hard its painful it hurts
my first best friend is my dog
@plumOak6862 Something similar had happened to me. When I lost them, I could still see the sun shine on the leaves, but things had lost all meaning. I remember searching desperately for any warmth but there was none. I hope time allows you to heal.
@plumOak6862 I have too it makes me feel like I'm nothing now
@plumOak6862 you will be ok. Sometimes it's ok to feel not ok. Things get better later on at some point. Just don't lose hope.
