Insecurity
i hate how insecure i am, and i feel so weak because of it. i hate how much i care about what others think besides my own opinions. i truly wish that i wasn't so insecure especially when it comes to my appearance, i'm so insecure of how i look that i have to essentially put on a new face everyday, every morning just so i can feel okay enough to make it through the day without being scared of what other people think, i feel like without makeup though i am nothing. i'm just an ugly whale. i look at my face and others around me and i just wish and yearn i could be half as attractive and secure, my makeup at the same time is not only my mask, but it's my comfort too, i feel so safe when i do my makeup, because i feel like i'm drawing on my dream face, but at the same time it hinders me, if i wake up for school late at all, i always have to beg to go to school late just so i have enough time to do my makeup and i feel so ashamed of it, i look at other kids my age and i wonder, where are my priorities truly at ? idk i have so many things i feel as if i've put on my plate and it's hurting me a lot right now, i feel so insecure at the fact that i deal with addiction problems, but other kids my age rarely do, why am i not normal ?
@L33CHES awww sweetie I'm sorry you feel this way 🙁 highschool, peer pressure and just teenage years are hard for everyone. It's ok to wear make-up to feel good you'd be surprised how many girls in your school, do the same thing ❤ the insecurities about your appearance you have now will more than likely change when you get a bit older🙂 right now it's natural for you to try look great and fit in with everyone else ❤ hugs you tightly ❤ your better than normal, your you ❤
thank you so much, but i just feel so bad for having outside influences get to me so much ☹️💔 i greatly appreciate your words though, i'll think about what you said and have it in mind 🤍
@L33CHES I understand that hearing “you’re fine just the way you are” might be hard to accept, even if it’s true. It's natural to worry about what others might think of your appearance, but it’s important to realize that most people are too focused on their own lives to judge you. When you go out, people are not scrutinizing your looks. The insecurities you feel, while very real, are often self-imposed. Learning to love yourself as you are is a journey, but remember, your worth isn’t determined by what others might think of you.
It's totally normal to compare yourself to others, but it can be tough on your self-esteem. Instead of focusing on what others do, try shifting to a "growth mindset" to focus on your own journey.
Remember, everyone's path is different. (As a good friend once suggested, "Don't compare your 'insides' to other people's 'outsides'.")
Celebrate your wins, no matter how small, and use challenges as opportunities to grow. Be kind to yourself. Setting personal goals can also help you stay focused on your own progress and let go of what other people do.
You're in a great spot to find ideas for building self-esteem. I'm so glad you are here!
i never really thought of it that way, but thank you !!
im realizing that i should start appreciating who i am more, thank you again for the words !
@L33CHES
Your feelings around insecurity with your body image is absolutely normal. Attractive and successful people are constantly held as the standard on screens and billboards so it's no doubt that we all struggle, especially young girls, who as early as 5 are already putting on makeup. It sounds like you might benefit from identifying and appreciating your positives and some self care (spending time with people who care about you, doing fun activities, etc.)
i'll try that out, are there any specific activities you recommend doing that you've noticed helped others ? its okay if theres none i still appreciate the suggestions you had already 🤍
Babe your addiction problem can be the reaction of your insecurities or OCD. First of all, god made us all different and unique. So, it is not necessary that every good looking person will be happy. It is just a normal thing to have different colour, textures and types. Happiness comes from your inner nature. To be honest when it comes to attractiveness, I have seen a lot of not so much beautiful looking people with beautiful personalities. Face plays only a small part.
And fixing things is the best choice you have made. There is no problem in using makeup. See, using makeup doesn't mean that you are drawing a fake face. Using makeup means you are highlighting your features. There's nothing to be ashamed of in it. If you really don't wanna use any makeup for a longer period of time, you can opt for any medical treatments and aesthetics.
May God bless you with a lot of happiness and confidence buddy❤️
thank you, how do i start healing my inner nature though ? if happiness comes from within, how should i approach healing from within ?
@L33CHES I'm sorry u feel that way. But that's exactly how I feel about myself. I hope that we can connect n grow together.
i hope so too, same can be said back