Ex moved in with my brother & sister inlaw
My husband and I seperated a year ago, he lived on my couch until two weeks back. He quit working and had me pay the bills and provide food for him. He left without a word after running into my sister inlaw and going for drinks then proceeded to move in with my brother and sister inlaw (used to be my best friend). I filed for divorce as soon as I realized where he was and that he wasn't coming back. I only found out because he told our youngest daughter about it, she is 18. He made sure to come hours before we had a scheduled time to pick up his stuff when he knew I was at work. This was intentionally done which I know because he told our oldest daughter as he came in that he knew he wasnt supposed to be there because I wasn't. It is becoming clear he and they are talking trash about me. I feel like I'm going crazy all I want is to split ways amicably but he had to bring my family into it and told our youngest what was going on without ever talking to me about it. I spent an entire year taking the high road and not fighting for any reason though there were many. I am glad he is gone but I lost my brother and sister inlaw too.
@fairmindedKitten808
I can feel the weight of everything you're carrying, and I just want to say I’m so sorry you’re going through this. You’ve shown an incredible amount of strength and patience, more than most people would in your situation. You took care of someone who wasn’t willing to take care of himself, and instead of gratitude, he repaid you with betrayal. That is deeply unfair, and it’s completely valid to feel hurt, angry, and just exhausted by it all.
Losing him might be a relief, but losing your brother and sister-in-law in the process? That’s another level of heartbreak. It’s not just the marriage ending it’s the people you trusted, the ones who were supposed to be in your corner, choosing sides in the worst way possible. That’s a kind of pain that doesn’t just go away overnight.
You are not crazy. You are not the villain in this. You did everything you could to keep things peaceful, and he still chose to be petty, manipulative, and disrespectful. That says everything about him not you.
I hope you give yourself permission to grieve, to be angry, to feel all of it without guilt. And I hope, in time, you find peace in knowing that you deserve better. You deserve people who choose you, respect you, and stand by you. It might not feel like it right now, but this chapter is closing so that something so much better can take its place.
You are stronger than you realize, and you are not alone in this.
