Blockage in me don't making me love myself
I had been around such people by choice that i had developed great hate for myself.
Because for all relationship failure if parent or friend or partner. I am responsible. I took it so nicely on me.
Keep changing to fit in people criteria. I am lost now.
How much effort I put I am not able to love myself. If I don't love I won't attract good people .
I don't know what to do ?
@wittyMap7054
I think you have written something here Many feel or felt at one time....
When we bend like a pretzel to fit in for others to adapt and be what they want .... it is not that we can't love ourselves it is we no longer know who we are to love.....
I went through somethings like that and yet i did not change... i made excuses and reasons .......I had to get to know myself again.
A close friend had been doing this as well ... it was not clear to me i thought they were happy and who they appeared to be, But when they decided no more and shed the fake parts of them....... they told a mutual friend they did not want to end up like ME ....... OUCH but it was a wake-up call i got to know me an learned to like me good bad or ugly parts too....
We have pretended a long time ...... shedding pretend for real is sometimes eye opening.
@toughTiger6481
I know I am aware this pattern.. icant love.
I had got so much betrayal n hurt . Reason they give me ..is my behaviour.
Though it not like that completely. But still i am person who look bad in myself first then other.
So I had self sabotage myself to such a extend that now me myself can't love.
That why I want if someone show me path of guide.
@wittyMap7054 Hello Mom, I am searching for platonic friend too
@wittyMap7054 I think you need to understand that it’s okay to feel like you don’t love yourself,but loving yourself has nothing to do with the love you give others.Taking time to get to know people and taking the time to see if they’re the right people can make loving them so worth it.Just keep being patient okay ❤️