Relationship issues
Have had a hard last 14 months. Need relationship advice and I need to learn how to let go.
@CocoPinkCrow
What's been going on?
Long story. My bf and I were together for about 5 years. We were having issues.. just fighting and normal disagreements but never talked of breaking up. . I was sick for awhile. Ended up in ER turns out I have stage 4 colorectal cancer. We got along great after that, he was very helpful and supportive. I thought we were back on track. Now, in the meantime, he got super stressed out I think. I don’t know but something changed again, and now he’s no longer living with me, but when we see each other he doesn’t act like he loves me, he goes to run an errand saying he’ll be back or leaves me assuming he will. Sometimes doesn’t say anything and is just gone. He’ll say I was in a bad mood and so he left. Which sometimes I am, but a lot of times he would just pick a fight with me and leave. Then he won’t answer his phone or texts until the next day or so. I ask, he says he loves me and wants to be with me. But I think treating someone like that is disrespectful. When we’re in the same room he’s in his phone or iPad almost constantly. Or outside. I’ve had a really hard year. Aside from all my treatments and surgeries and that 2 of my close friends died, a cousin I was close to and my life seems to be falling apart. Cancer had taken every thing I had. And I just found out it has come back. I love him, I know he used to love me. I just feel like he doesn’t. But he won’t tell me, so I’m holding onto hope maybe. I wont try and pursue another relationship at this point, and he was here through everything so I’m comfortable with him. But how do I get him to tell me what’s going on or how do I get strong enough to leave him and just be alone? It hurts, I need support so badly right now, and I want it from him. Sorry. There’s so many other things that happened but that’s just kinda the run down. I guess. I know I’m pathetic. Everything points at “leave him”
@CocoPinkCrow
Im sorry to hear. :( Sounds like a really difficult situation.
You aren't pathetic. It's normal to have difficulty letting go of a 5 year relationship especially when you went through something like that together.
Unfortunately, you can't really make him tell you if he doesn't want to. Maybe he feels guilty doing so because of your illness? Besides asking again, there's not much else you can do. Except of course end the relationship yourself.
Sorry to hear about your situation! :(
I would suggest sitting down and talking with him to see what he wants for y'all relationship, if he wants to break up or stay together etc. If he doesn't give you a clear answer or is hesitant and says stuff just to be saying it, then that means you need to leave him and just focus on yourself, your health and getting yourself together. I know it may be hard to let go of someone like that and making such a big step, but you have to let go if there's nothing there and he seems to be distant and not care for you lately. You should now only focusing on you and your health and becoming the best person you can! ❤️
Hope this helps you!
