What would you do?
I have this friend that I have been friends with for about 13 years recently in September me and her got into it because I said something about her drinking and we haven’t spoke since I reached out one time she read my message but no reply. And the only reason why I still think about it is because we have been friends for so long and I felt like we really had a connection. if you were in my situation would you try to reach out for closure or would you just call it a loss. I do understand people have stuff going on, and it’s not always about you, but it really hurt my feelings and it bothers me till this day . I would love to reach out, but I’m not sure what to say .
@adaptableMoon1894
If I were in your shoes, personally, I might feel inclined to reach out to my friend for closure. I value communication and understanding in relationships, especially with someone I've been friends with for such a long time. I would want to express how much the friendship means to me and how the silence has left me feeling hurt and confused. But I'd also recognize that emotions can be complicated, and people deal with things in their own time and way. I'd try to empathize with the possibility that my friend might be facing their own challenges or struggles that have made it difficult for them to respond. In terms of what I'd say if I decided to reach out, I'd aim for honesty and vulnerability. I'd want to convey that I'm coming from a place of genuine concern and care, rather than placing blame or seeking confrontation
@adaptableMoon1894
I understand how difficult it must be to lose a long-term friendship without any closure, especially when it's triggered by a single incident. Everyone reacts differently to various topics, and sometimes it's hard to predict how someone will respond. It's clear that this situation has deeply affected you, and it's perfectly normal to feel hurt by it.
You've already shown understanding by giving them space after reaching out once, which is commendable. However, if you feel like more communication is needed, it's okay to consider it. Perhaps suggesting a cordial chat to discuss what happened and whether an apology is necessary could help clarify things.
It's essential to assess the situation carefully, considering your feelings and the dynamics of your friendship. Involving a mutual friend could be an option, though it's important to weigh the potential outcomes. Ultimately, the decision is yours to make, as only you know what's best for you in this situation.
Remember, these are just suggestions, and you should trust your instincts and judgment.
@adaptableMoon1894 this is a sad situation, bless you. There's no harm in trying to teach out of you want to. Perhaps send a casual message. See what happens.
But really I think people come and go in life, there will be others who will pass through your life too. Due to life's circumstances people go their separate ways. So I say, enjoy the time you spend with someone, make amazing memories. And when they go, well you still have great memories. Then the next friends come along ❤❤ I hope you'll be ok ❤
