Moving On w/o Guilt
Hi,
I’ve been struggling with the fact that I think I’ve outgrown my friendships. I’ve known my friends for 3-4 years and I’ve come to realize they are really negative and discouraging to me. I’ve tried communicating with them my needs but they always shut me down.
Theyre not bad people, but I don’t think they’re kind either. They complain a lot and judge a lot, but never do anything to make themselves or the world better, and when I try to work on myself or get involved in the community they are really pessimistic about it. They continually tell me that my positivity “hasn’t helped” my situation and tell me all my plans are’nt ever going to work out.
I’ve decided to slowly remove myself from these friendships, but I feel guilty because I don’t think they’re bad people, just negative and not good for me.
Any tips on how to deal with the guilt and eventual grief?
Recognizing when a friendship no longer serves your well-being can be incredibly difficult, especially when you’ve known people for years. It’s normal to feel guilty, even when you know that distancing yourself is the healthiest option for you. Your feelings of grief are also a natural part of the process.
Hi IntelligentEyes, I can totally relate. The more you grow as a person, the more you grow apart from those who choose to remain as they are.
It is a process of letting go, of sadness and grieving. I'm finally reaching out to new friends that are aligned with my new developments and finding it is also a process of courage. 😊
