I don't know what to do, I need advice
Hi, I have a special friend, his name is Angel, I love him very much, I have known him for years but lately he has stopped talking to me, we no longer talk like before, his answers are short, we can't even keep up a 5 minute chat, he just leaves me aside and goes with our other mutual friends, I tried to talk to him about it, I told him that it made me feel bad and he said it was just "because I had nothing to talk about and we didn't have the same tastes" We have been friends for years and he comes out with that now, I have done everything, I tried to like the same things as him, to be by his side, to always talk to him just to stay by his side, And I wish he had done the same for me, that he had at least tried to see my tastes and have something to talk about, but every time I asked him to share something or see something he would say things like: I don't want to see your nonsense or anything like that, he doesn't like it, sometimes he even changed me for my own sister, they never got along and out of nowhere he started to leave me for her, it was just him and me And he always had to invite my sister, I don't know what to do anymore, I miss his friendship, spending time with him but I also hate him, I want to leave him and stop insisting that if he doesn't talk to me Although I insist, it is better to leave it but I don't know what to do. 😓
It sounds like you've put a lot of effort into your friendship with Angel, but his actions are leaving you hurt and frustrated. Friendships should be mutual, and if you're the only one trying, it's understandable to feel upset. It might be time to step back and focus on your own well-being. Letting go doesn’t mean you don’t care, but sometimes it’s necessary to prioritize relationships that make you feel valued.
I hear you. I understand that you care a lot about Angel and his behaviour is hurting you. What I would suggest is giving your friendship a bit of space to breathe and see what happens. People are usually not trying to be hurtful, they are just facing their own struggles. Maybe he feels overwhelmed by you, maybe it's something else. You don't have to hate him or leave him. Sometimes just backing away might be what you need to be closer than ever.
I've taken a step back and trying to give him space but since then he literally doesn't talk to me anymore, and I don't know what to do, he doesn't try to talk to me either.
@Selly0330 Hey. I get it. It doesn't make any sense. It hurts when people we care about don't care about us or desire to let us know what is wrong. You've done nothing wrong. In fact you're doing everything right and that is why it hurts so much. Try to not think about him. I know it's really hard, yet you can't do anything until he finally responds or speaks to you, so enjoy life and try connecting with other people.
Thank you very much, you are right, I have tried to talk to other people but yes, it makes me feel bad that after so much effort that I put into our friendship he doesn't do the same
@Selly0330 You're welcomed! I totally understand. If he does ever talk to you again don't be afraid to tell him how you feel. Boundaries are important in relationships., especially after trust has been broken.
I have been in a similar situation once. Like you said I’ve done everything in my capacity to make that friendship fruitful again. But with men it’s so difficult to understand them bcs they themselves are not good at processing their emotions. I really appreciate your effort for making your friendship better. All I can say is you’ve done your part and he’s lucky to have a friend like you who loves him despite his ignorance. Just give it some time and hope it gets better. Sometimes space and time makes things much much better. Maybe you’ll gain some perspective with the time away from him. Loads of love for sharing your troubles here❤️
