Afraid to connect again.
I’ve gotten to a point in my life where I realize, I dont want a bunch of friends, I want a few truly GOOD ones. Friends you can talk to and not worry about blackmail, ones who are there for you and you’re there for them. Friends you can go grab a bite to eat with or go hiking with. People that TRULY get you. But after everything I’ve been through, I trust absolutely NO ONE. The idea of trying again seems foolish and like a waste of time, and I’m painfully lonely. I recently even had to leave my dog behind when I moved and it’s been more than I can handle. Life seems so dull, colorless, and pointless…
@peachVase6091
It sounds like you’re carrying so much heartache and loss, and I’m so sorry you’re feeling this way. Wanting those few, truly genuine connections is something so many of us long for, yet when trust has been broken and life has dealt so much pain, it’s incredibly hard to open up again. Losing the companionship of your dog on top of that must feel like another cut in an already tender place, leaving you feeling even more isolated.
It’s okay to take your time with this, to acknowledge the need for connection without forcing yourself to trust right away. Healing happens slowly, and sometimes starting small—whether it’s connecting with others over a shared interest or even being around others in low pressure ways—can help ease some of that loneliness. Remember, you’re not alone in feeling this way, and you deserve the warmth and color of real friendships. Give yourself permission to find even the tiniest joys as you move forward, one small step at a time. Life has those connections out there waiting for you, and it’s okay to let them in bit by bit, as you’re ready.
Hey, I feel the same way. I had a few friends who I thought are so genuine and understanding but as years passed I felt us growing apart. They don’t acknowledge that though and say it’s all the same. But I prefer deep connections and not superficial talks. And of course, trust matters a lot. I have a lot of trust issues too having let down by people a lot. So I understand how you feel.
It seems when we are young, friends matter a lot but as people grow and have more responsibilities people drift apart. Seems majority of people thinks that’s normal though I don’t.
But you have to still try to be hopeful and enjoy being you at the moment. I try doing things that I like. Some days that works and other days I do feel lonely. What do you do?
