Am I The A-Hole?
So basically, I had this little group of me and three other people which I'll name Rylee, Kirk, and Lorenzo, (Not their real names) and we've become more distant.
About a year back, I knew that Rylee had a crush on Lorenzo because she told me. But just a couple weeks ago, she finally told Lorenzo she likes him. He ended up being a bit weirded out and now he doesn't hang out with us much which really hurt me because Lorenzo had been my closest friend for two years which is the longest I've ever kept a friendship.
So now Lorenzo barely talks to me and I genuinely miss him because he was my best friend but now he Dislikes being around me, Rylee, and Kirk.
Second of all, when the school year started, me and Rylee really grew close because of our similar mental health problems. Self-harm, (Which I have been clean for about 6 months now 🎉) and just general family issues, but I don't really talk about it anymore with her because when she talks about it, it genuinely annoys me. Like I get that people need to vent, be she just keeps talking about it over and over again and it's starting to frustrate me.
I also feel like a lot of it is my fault because I somewhat push her away. It's strange because I've been having these sort of mood swings recently. Whether it be I'm happy one day and depressed/irritable the other, or just in the span of a few hours. I'm not sure if is Bipolar Disorder or whatever. (I hate saying that because it feels like I'm self diagnosing)
Anyways, have a good day/evening/night ♥
@Mercer9878 Hi there. I'm sorry to hear about how your friendships have been affected. In your post you mentioned that Lorenzo dislikes being around the 3 of y'all now. Aside from the fact that Rylee expressed that she likes him, is there any reason why you think that way? I can't imagine how hurtful that must feel losing a friend you really cared about. I understand if Lorenzo was wanting to pull back from the friendship after being weirded out that Rylee liked him, but I don't see why that had to affect you. Have you thought about having a talk with Lorenzo letting him know you value and miss the friendship you both had? Things don't have to be weird or awkward if the people involved don't let it get that way. Either way, I am really sorry your friend has chosen to be distant even though nothing is no fault of your own. I am glad you have other friends to be there for you though. As far as things with Rylee, I believe you are just doing what you think is the right thing to do. Venting is one thing, but constantly adding more fuel to the fire over and over and over is another thing. If that's not the kind of energy you want to be around and it frustrates you, then you are free to express how you feel or do what you think is best for you. I really hope your friendships bloom in the future and that you are happy. <3
PS: I am so extremely proud of you for being 6 months clean from self harming! That is incredible and a very huge deal. You are absolutely amazing, strong, and brave!