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How to Make Friends After Bullying – Yep, It’s Possible! 🫶
by kabir22
Last post
 November 16th, 2024
...See more Hey lovely people! 🌟 Okay, let's be real for a second—making friends after being bullied can feel like climbing a mountain in flip-flops. 🩴 It’s tough, and sometimes you wonder if you’ll ever reach the top. But guess what? You can, and you will. I’ve got your back with some tips to help you navigate this journey. Let’s dive in, shall we? 1. Start with Self-Acceptance (You’re Amazing, Period) Easier said than done, right? But honestly, you’ve been through something tough, and you owe yourself a bit of love. Take a moment to look in the mirror and say, “I’m worth knowing. I’m worth loving.” Because you are. Spend time doing the things that make you feel you. Whether it’s reading, painting, or watching that same sitcom for the tenth time—do it unapologetically. 2. Find Your Tribe (Safe Spaces, Anyone?) I’m talking about those places where you walk in, and nobody expects you to be anything other than yourself. Maybe it’s a local book club, a hiking group, or an online community where you can geek out about your favorite show. Shared interests make it so much easier to start conversations without all that pressure of impressing someone. Trust me, finding your tribe makes all the difference. 3. Talk About the Little Things (Big Things Come Later) You don't have to start with a TED Talk about your life. Try simple stuff like, “Hey, do you like pineapple on pizza?” 🍍🍕(And if they say yes, well, you’ve just found someone with impeccable taste.) Building friendships can start with these small, light-hearted conversations. 4. Be Honest (But No Need to Spill the Beans Right Away) It’s okay to let people in, but only when you feel comfortable. You don’t owe anyone your whole story, but sharing bits and pieces when you’re ready can help build real connections. It’s like slowly peeling back layers of an onion… except without the tears (hopefully). 5. Set Boundaries Like a Boss 🛑 Listen, you’ve already been through enough. It’s perfectly fine to have boundaries and to stick to them. If you’re not comfortable talking about something, say so. Real friends will respect that, and if they don’t, well, they’re probably not worth the energy. You deserve people who make you feel safe and respected. 6. Explore the Digital Universe (Making Friends Has Never Been So Wi-Fi Friendly) 📱 Online communities can be a lifesaver when meeting people face-to-face feels like scaling Everest. Whether it’s joining a fandom, gaming group, or a forum for your favorite hobby, there’s a whole world out there ready to welcome you with open arms (or, you know, enthusiastic emojis 🤗). 7. Be Kind, Be Yourself, and Be a Little Weird (Seriously, It’s the Best Combo) The most beautiful friendships are built on authenticity. Don’t hide the parts of yourself that you think are “too much” or “too weird.” Love binge-watching cat videos at 2 a.m.? Great. Enjoy talking to your plants? Awesome. The right people will find your quirks endearing, I promise. 8. Remember That Not Everyone’s a Jerk (I Promise) It’s easy to put up walls when you’ve been hurt, but not everyone’s out to break them down. Some people genuinely want to know the real you. Give them a chance—but keep that protective armor handy, just in case. ⚔️ 9. Patience, Grasshopper 🐛 You’re not going to become best friends with someone overnight, and that’s completely okay. Relationships take time to build. Every time you put yourself out there, even if it’s just a little “hello,” you’re making progress. Celebrate those small wins—they matter more than you think. You’ve Got This! 🌈 You’re more than the stuff you’ve been through. You’re resilient, you’re strong, and there’s a world of potential friends out there just waiting to meet you. So take a deep breath, put on that brave face (even if it’s a little wobbly today), and remember—you’re not alone in this journey. We’ve got your back. 💪 Anyone else got tips, stories, or a good pineapple pizza debate to share? 🍍🍕 Let’s hear them! Your voice matters, and who knows, you might just find a friend right here. 💛 ------------------------- Tagging some so this can be used as reference whenever needed - @Hope @ASilentObserver @MelodyoftheOcean @Heartsandrosesandpaws @SparkyGizmo @Sunisshiningandsoareyou @coolvibes @Boon4U
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Friendship Support Automated Taglist!
by tommy
Last post
 March 19th, 2024
...See more Welcome to the Friendship Support Taglist This thread is an auto-updating list. The list is regularly updated by forum leaders and can be found below. Having issues? Reply below and someone will help you! Why should I join the taglist? ✔ Never miss out on sub-community check-ins, discussions or events ✔ Get tagged and notified by community leaders whenever a new relevant thread has been posted ✔ Become a more active member of the community. What do I need to do? ✅ To add yourself to this taglist, press the Post to Thread button below and write the exact words Please add me. ❌ To remove yourself from this taglist, press the Post to Thread button below and write the exact words Please remove me. ------------------------- Current taglist as of 9 August 2024 (updated by @tommy) @AnimalLover2006 @Bella20 @braveFig6308 @dapperLunch1747 @daydreammemories @Gettingbettertoday @HarmonyBlossom @LucyGray1799 @Ninahdy @OakSerenity @politePeach9642 @raspberry563 @reginalistener18 @spectacularApricot7089 @tidyCurrent1882 @tommy
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Systemic Psychotherapy for Friendship Support
by SoulfullyAButterfly
Last post
 January 23rd, 2024
...See more Are you interested in improving your relationships, understanding yourself better, and developing new skills? If yes, you may be eligible to participate in our study. What is Systemic Therapy? Systemic therapy is a form of psychotherapy that focuses on relationships between people and the patterns of interaction within the systems that impact the well-being of the individuals within the system. Healthy systems are encouraged by seeking balance within the system, as well as working on the roles and relationships involved. What is the Purpose of This Study? The purpose of this study is to explore how systemic psychotherapy-informed growth paths and listener training can help people to achieve personal growth and positive change. We want to understand how participating in the growth path or listener training can affect your relationships, thoughts, behaviour, and feelings, and how your past experiences influence your current patterns, behaviour, and relationships. What Are the Benefits of Participating? By participating in this study, you will: * Learn more about systemic therapy and how it can help you improve your relationships and well-being * Gain insights into your own patterns, behaviour, and feelings, and how they are influenced by your past and present experiences * Develop new skills and techniques * Contribute to research by answering questionnaires How Can You Sign Up? If you are interested in participating in this study, please read the full advertisement and sign-up form here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/siteupdates/SoulfullyAButterflysContentGarden_2136/ResearchParticipationOpportunitySystemicPsychotherapyinformedGrowthPathandListenerTraining_311588/]. We will contact you to confirm your eligibility and provide you with more information. Hurry up, as we have limited time available to participate in this research opportunity!
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Feeling used, problematic friend (Long vent)
by FutureTeacher301
Last post
 1 day ago
...See more I don't want to be friends with her anymore. She can't stop writing negativism in her messages, claiming that her fanfic has low reads, that no one is interested in her ship, that there's no one of the fandom we are in that wants to talk about her fav character and so on. I always explained to her that numbers are not important, because it is only content that makes YOU happy, and it would be enough to share it with your closest friends and have a joyful conversation. (Besides, let's be honest, you can't pretend a big audience if you write for a dead fandom). However, she doesn't understand. She is always complaining, as if she needs extreme attention, all day. She needs to be validated by everyone saying "oh, but your content is so cute", and so on. I really noticed she has these moments of attention seeker, and this is worrying me, because she might use her social media in not the correct way, complaining and making a fuss over everything. When I can tell she is in one of these episodes, she makes tons of posts of social media. "I am going to delete my blog, no one reads me. No one likes my stuff", and so on... She even spams in a personal *** server we have with other two girls, of course, trying to make us compliment her. Oh, and by the way, she made another server where she apparently invited all her important people. This gave me a huge red flag, because she always pretended people to talk there, all day. Now... You are wondering, if she finally meets someone from the fandom, she will be happy, right? Wrong. She always has a problem. She always talk bad about these people, and she wants me to follow her game. I have no drama with any of these people, yet she just wants spice since someone shares her f/o or it's a friend of one of these someones (hope you understand this part...). I don't want to talk bad about people I never had a beef with, I don't know if she's aware that this is wrong. She finds a problem in every single detail, like "this person never played the games", or "why are they just switching to the most popular characters". This is pissing me off, honestly, because here we go again with her complains... Since she complained a lot that no one arranges a gift exchange dynamic within the fandom we're in, I offered myself to make one. The gifts were presented yesterday - drawings, fanfics and letters. It was so cute. The person who worked on a letter to her asked me a lot about her OC. I can tell this one blud put effort! However, she cried on my DMs saying the letter is too meh, also posting on Bluesky that "the letter she got left her with a bittersweet taste". And when I was on the server with the other two girls, showing the drawing I got in another gift exchange, she quickly appeared, crying that she didn't got one and I was like... ._.? I turned into a clown. Literally I arranged a dynamic for her and she doesn't show a hint of gratitude. (she always complains her gifts, btw. Even if she commissions, she always has a complain. Nothing satisfies her, and the letter fed me up completely) I don't want to be friends with her anymore. I am going to exit the server. If she wants answers, I will tell her everything in the best way possible. There's no way an adult woman is acting like a teenager, seeking attention through victimism. Her harsh past shouldn't let her act like this. I am aware of her past, her traumas, but I don't want to be the one that cheers her up anymore, because she doesn't do the same in the end. We used to joke that she's the extrovert person who adopts the introvert (me), but I think the real thing is "I only pull your strings when I need your validation".
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Toxic friends affected my whole life
by Vivikun9
Last post
 February 10th
...See more I feel sad that my whole life is been in a cycle of toxic friends and people. It only recently where I finally see the negative people/energy in my life where I feel sad, sick, and just... ashamed. I know it's not my fault but it feels like it is my fault. Like I cursed myself through my own subconscious to not trust people but if I do I will only get hurt. I finally saw after a person I cared about passed away. We used to be friends on *** and we had a issue that will never resolved but as i thought about it more... the lack of communication, I was in a deep state of depression, wanted to branch out as a artist... it when I came to see that I was the only one reaching out, they would tell themselves I'm toxic but now I know that is not the case anymore... I feel stupid, sad, and angry at myself for not being able to stop the cycle of emotional abuse, toxicity, and I allowed myself to be with people like that. I wish it would end but sometimes don't know how
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I used the enneagram to finally figure out what went wrong!
by determinedSea4370
Last post
 February 1st
...See more Okay, so I basically have a best friend who I have come to realize over the past few years is VERY different from me. Since we both seem to be creative, passionate, and eccentric types, I had assumed she must think and feel just like me- so when I continued to come away from our hangouts feeling anxious and frustrated, I couldn't figure it out.  Our last hangout in early December before she ghosted me went like this: I was in my feels, nostalgic ipod songs playing in my ears as I walked alone through the woods that morning- I walked for hours. I found an abandoned photograph in the woods and was enthralled at the art and mystery of it. I drove to pick her up from her house at noon to take her to her therapy and that felt good- to do something so meaningful for her. We sung along with songs I deeply related to on the way there. I sat and sketched the mysterious photograph in my sketchbook while she got her therapy. I was feeling pretty good and satisfied so far. Then, she wanted to go shopping- she always wanted to go shopping. I agreed and wondered why she was so uninterested in the abandoned photograph. I didn't understand why she was talking about the pink scrunchie she wanted to get for her friend. I didn't understand how she didn't want to talk about the trauma I had helped her through the other week or how the therapy session had just went. It was like she was pretending none of her problems had ever happened and I was confused- as I usually was. We shopped at a makeup shop and then visited a cookie shop and then a perfume shop and then a book shop and then she wanted me to drive her to some crafts stores so she could make more gifts for her friends and I just imploded. I needed realness, I needed pain, I needed something more than glittery optimism and consumerism and distraction. I tried to explain how dystopian the world suddenly seemed to me, but of course she didn't get it- she was confused, but she just rolled with it. She tried to make a point about how she understood me in the car, but she vastly oversimplified and misunderstood me instead all the while trying to keep the mood light with music. I hated how I had failed her and how she had made me feel- because she means so much to me I can hardly stand it- so after a week of no texts from her, I thought maybe I could fix things by being more assertive about what I wanted- I don't like shopping, but I like museums and cafes and galleries and parks. I felt selfish and dumb asserting myself, but I felt like it needed to be done, because I felt like it was obvious that she didn't actually understand my needs as well as she thought she did. She hasn't responded since. This whole incident has been causing my mental health to take an absolute nose dive- it was the whole reason I felt the need to try 7cups in the first place.  But, recently I've been exploring the enneagram. I liked exploring mbti when I was younger and found it helpful, so I decided to try this too- and somehow found the enneagram to be more painfully accurate and insightful than mbti. I typed myself as a 4w5. Then, tonight, I realized that my friend is not actually another type 4, like me, but a type 7w6. As a type 4, I revel in the deep and dramatic. I don't fill the hole inside me, but rather I flaunt it as part of something that makes me unique. 7s, on the other hand, RUN from pain. They get anxious about having to dig down deep and would much rather escape into distraction and optimism and materialism. Instead of glorifying the hole inside them, 7s do the opposite of 4s- they try to stuff it with bright shiny things. They never want to feel bored or in want. So, while I can't help but ruminate, she can't help but run away. I had previously been trying to use enneagram to make sense of her, but holy CRAP, this is ridiculously accurate.  As I learn more about 4s and 7s, I hope to then gain insight into how to better make it work when we are obviously both stressed out. She didn't choose to have the opposite coping mechanism from me and I can't let myself judge her so harshly. I've also got to realize that my obsession with the deep and dark all the time isn't the best coping mechanism either. I desperately want to find a middle ground for us so that we can both be healthy together.  I wish I hadn't sent her that text explaining what my likes and dislikes are, because now I think she took it as a rejection of her. I wish I had instead waited until today and then sent her a text eager to share insights I had about how I understood her in new ways.  Anyways, have any of your tried to use mbti and/or enneagram to better understand yourself and the ones you love?
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making friends online with bad social anxiety and i have no idea how to talk to people
by WhoTheHeckIsThisGuyLOL
Last post
 January 28th
...See more for the last 4-5 years I have had very few friends and whenever I try to meet new people or do something involving social interaction (for me this is mostly video games) I get pretty bad anxiety, and this is an issue because I want to do those things but whenever a try my anxiety gets so bad it's very hard to just do it.  despite this about two years ago I made it into a dnd group with people around my age and have met with them pretty regularly each week however outside of playing i have a lot of trouble talking to them or hanging out with them in *** without an explicit invite. recently the anxiety has been a bit issue because I want to join a game based on roleplay which is mostly social interaction and improve though I guess my issue is going into a large server with strangers. im not sure if this is the right place to post this or even the point in posting but I'm doing it anyway.
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Does anyone have a friend like this?
by determinedSea4370
Last post
 January 28th
...See more My best friend finally texted me back after about a month of silence. I have been falling apart without her support, analzying our friendship history and personalities and our last hangout and my last texts- like literally, she has been every other thought in my head. Thinking about her has kept me up at night, made me breakdown, drove me to drink more- part of the reason I am back on meds and in therapy and so active on 7cups is because she means so much to me and then pulls this *** that leaves me reeling and desperate. And I was expecting a text from her that would at least be an apology or some hint as to why she went ghost or asking how I was doing...but it was just this short thing with cute emojis saying 'wow! i didn't realize it's been so long since we talked. I've been in my own little world lol miss youuuuu'  So, she's been off in her world, not giving me a thought while I have been tearing myself apart grieving about her and our relationship almost every day?? Maybe she's ashamed about not contacting me, or she has thought of me this past month but doesn't want to talk about it because she only wants to move on to happy things but I AM FUMING.  There's a part of me that wants to be understanding and forgive her like I always do when she ghosts me (and she ghosts me at least 3 times a year) but this time she caused me SO MUCH PAIN. And she thinks she can just brush it under the rug with some cute emojis?? I know it's petty, but I cannot respond to her because I can't seem to calm down. Has anyone else experienced something like this??
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Friendship
by GoingToUnknownWorld
Last post
 January 24th
...See more Why every friend tends to leave sooner or later? Idk if i still want friends but i surely do wanna talk... its so boring having nobody to talk to 😅 Is anyone willing to talk? 🙃
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friendship rarely last for me
by hopefulencounter
Last post
 January 23rd
...See more I don't know why is it so hard for me to maintain friendship. I always try to be good with my friends, I helped them, I always replied to their messages.. I joke with them, but what usually happened is that that friendship doesn't last for long. And that made me feel like a bad person, weird person 😕.. I feel too scared to trust new bond now, I'm afraid they'll just leave me again in the end when they already feel bored of me. Maybe it's just me who overthinks too much, but maybe it's true. Idk, my negative thoughts win a lot..
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FRIENDS
by sunnyKoala8176
Last post
 January 20th
...See more As an international student who moved to a whole new country for college, I truly understand the troubles when it comes to making friends. It can be hard adjusting, being open, talking. You might feel judged and not understood beacause you are not like them. But I am here to ask that you join me on the path to confidence and communication.  Join me as I learn to speak my heart out, laugh like I just watched the most hilarious thing, and connect with others on a deeper level. Together, we can overcome the fear of being misunderstood and embrace the beauty of our differences. Let’s build bridges through open conversations, shared experiences, and genuine connections. It’s not just about fitting in—it's about finding your voice and letting it shine. So, let’s take this journey together, one step at a time, toward building friendships that last a lifetime. Are you ready?
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My mental health has ruined my friendships; What to do?
by Betterthoughts11
Last post
 January 16th
...See more To make a very long story short; I got out of a very bad relationship last year; which made my pre-exisiting mental health MUCH worse..these friends came and picked me up and helped me SO much through the year. But; I was not consistent in therapy, or other ways to grow, so I've hurt them badly.. I messed up. I was venting and sharing issues about other friends without taking steps to fix it, so it just ended up making them feel pinned against eachother, or like i purposefully tried to ruin the friend group, or like I was talking smack, this ENTIRELY wasn't my intention. But, that doesn't matter, because it happened wether i meant to or not. My mental state is so bad, I really thought/think everyone was out to get me/disliked me, but I didn't actually go address that with the person. There are some true and valid issues in the friend group that I didnt address, so it just looks like I was purposely a jerk. Its a mess of my own making...the guilt and pain feels crushing. My friends snapped at me, and asked for 6 months to a year of space, and then maybe we can try again at friendship. Their reaction is valid; my issues i had are valid, but i didnt handle them correctly. Despite this, I feel really wounded...how do I begin to manage the pain resulting from this?
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I feel like people don't give me enough grace.
by tryingtosurvive2024
Last post
 January 15th
...See more I kinda know why I'm writing this, and I kinda don't.  Logically speaking, I think it is stupid of me to be writing this.  No amount of information I have ever read has ever been helpful to me.  That stuff makes what should be a joy into something very complicated.  At least too complicated for my brain to process. I can't make friends, and if something starts to happen, it won't be long before it is dead.  I always have a way of stumbling across something I didn't know about.  After that whatever good was going on, gets destroyed.  Why didn't I know about it?  Because the other person never told me about it. Speaking from my own negative experiences.  People are strange.  What makes one person laugh, will horrify another.  I never try to be offensive because I don't desire to lose anyone.  I wish more people would be more understanding and have thicker skin.  If your friend accidentally offense you over something they don't know about, then why get mad and push them away for it? I have met lots of people that have acted this way to me.  Look it takes time to get to know someone and where their individual boundaries are.  I feel like people don't give me enough grace or even enough credit for how hard I work on this.  Usually what destroys these friendships is not anything big.  To another person it might not even make a blip on the radar.  sigh
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Is this normal
by Fwloop
Last post
 January 10th
...See more Me and a few friends made a few jokes, they were not harmful to the person but they were just about finding out who he likes. Then one of the friends went and told him in a group chat, I told her how embarrassing,  uncomfortable, and upset that made me and she just said “it’s really not that serious, it doesn’t matter.” And that made me feel terrible. I said okay well why don’t we just respect each other’s opinions and she said “sure” very sarcastically. I just want to cry at this point and I blew it a little out of proportion but at this point it wasn’t even about the joke anymore. I felt like she didn’t care about my feelings. Idk what to do about this anymore.
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Friends til the bend mends the end
by 4Runnning44AspiringJD
Last post
 January 4th
...See more Hey yall, I am run. I write ✍🏽  enjoy: eons Ago agonizing pulls the strings of  woah we don’t need nulls please 🙏🏽  so a cien won’t have a beneficial seed, well I guess I’ll just seize because I lost belief  in the reef even In the ocean, becahse That loyalty motion, no longer needs that extra notion or your thoughtful emptiness of potions. 🧪 

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