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How to Make Friends After Bullying – Yep, It’s Possible! 🫶
by kabir22
Last post
Monday
...See more Hey lovely people! 🌟 Okay, let's be real for a second—making friends after being bullied can feel like climbing a mountain in flip-flops. 🩴 It’s tough, and sometimes you wonder if you’ll ever reach the top. But guess what? You can, and you will. I’ve got your back with some tips to help you navigate this journey. Let’s dive in, shall we? 1. Start with Self-Acceptance (You’re Amazing, Period) Easier said than done, right? But honestly, you’ve been through something tough, and you owe yourself a bit of love. Take a moment to look in the mirror and say, “I’m worth knowing. I’m worth loving.” Because you are. Spend time doing the things that make you feel you. Whether it’s reading, painting, or watching that same sitcom for the tenth time—do it unapologetically. 2. Find Your Tribe (Safe Spaces, Anyone?) I’m talking about those places where you walk in, and nobody expects you to be anything other than yourself. Maybe it’s a local book club, a hiking group, or an online community where you can geek out about your favorite show. Shared interests make it so much easier to start conversations without all that pressure of impressing someone. Trust me, finding your tribe makes all the difference. 3. Talk About the Little Things (Big Things Come Later) You don't have to start with a TED Talk about your life. Try simple stuff like, “Hey, do you like pineapple on pizza?” 🍍🍕(And if they say yes, well, you’ve just found someone with impeccable taste.) Building friendships can start with these small, light-hearted conversations. 4. Be Honest (But No Need to Spill the Beans Right Away) It’s okay to let people in, but only when you feel comfortable. You don’t owe anyone your whole story, but sharing bits and pieces when you’re ready can help build real connections. It’s like slowly peeling back layers of an onion… except without the tears (hopefully). 5. Set Boundaries Like a Boss 🛑 Listen, you’ve already been through enough. It’s perfectly fine to have boundaries and to stick to them. If you’re not comfortable talking about something, say so. Real friends will respect that, and if they don’t, well, they’re probably not worth the energy. You deserve people who make you feel safe and respected. 6. Explore the Digital Universe (Making Friends Has Never Been So Wi-Fi Friendly) 📱 Online communities can be a lifesaver when meeting people face-to-face feels like scaling Everest. Whether it’s joining a fandom, gaming group, or a forum for your favorite hobby, there’s a whole world out there ready to welcome you with open arms (or, you know, enthusiastic emojis 🤗). 7. Be Kind, Be Yourself, and Be a Little Weird (Seriously, It’s the Best Combo) The most beautiful friendships are built on authenticity. Don’t hide the parts of yourself that you think are “too much” or “too weird.” Love binge-watching cat videos at 2 a.m.? Great. Enjoy talking to your plants? Awesome. The right people will find your quirks endearing, I promise. 8. Remember That Not Everyone’s a Jerk (I Promise) It’s easy to put up walls when you’ve been hurt, but not everyone’s out to break them down. Some people genuinely want to know the real you. Give them a chance—but keep that protective armor handy, just in case. ⚔️ 9. Patience, Grasshopper 🐛 You’re not going to become best friends with someone overnight, and that’s completely okay. Relationships take time to build. Every time you put yourself out there, even if it’s just a little “hello,” you’re making progress. Celebrate those small wins—they matter more than you think. You’ve Got This! 🌈 You’re more than the stuff you’ve been through. You’re resilient, you’re strong, and there’s a world of potential friends out there just waiting to meet you. So take a deep breath, put on that brave face (even if it’s a little wobbly today), and remember—you’re not alone in this journey. We’ve got your back. 💪 Anyone else got tips, stories, or a good pineapple pizza debate to share? 🍍🍕 Let’s hear them! Your voice matters, and who knows, you might just find a friend right here. 💛 ------------------------- Tagging some so this can be used as reference whenever needed - @Hope @ASilentObserver @MelodyoftheOcean @Heartsandrosesandpaws @SparkyGizmo @Sunisshiningandsoareyou @coolvibes @Boon4U
Friendship Support Automated Taglist!
by tommy
Last post
March 19th
...See more Welcome to the Friendship Support Taglist This thread is an auto-updating list. The list is regularly updated by forum leaders and can be found below. Having issues? Reply below and someone will help you! Why should I join the taglist? ✔ Never miss out on sub-community check-ins, discussions or events ✔ Get tagged and notified by community leaders whenever a new relevant thread has been posted ✔ Become a more active member of the community. What do I need to do? ✅ To add yourself to this taglist, press the Post to Thread button below and write the exact words Please add me. ❌ To remove yourself from this taglist, press the Post to Thread button below and write the exact words Please remove me. ------------------------- Current taglist as of 9 August 2024 (updated by @tommy) @AnimalLover2006 @Bella20 @braveFig6308 @dapperLunch1747 @daydreammemories @Gettingbettertoday @HarmonyBlossom @LucyGray1799 @Ninahdy @OakSerenity @politePeach9642 @raspberry563 @reginalistener18 @spectacularApricot7089 @tidyCurrent1882 @tommy
Systemic Psychotherapy for Friendship Support
by SoulfullyAButterfly
Last post
January 23rd
...See more Are you interested in improving your relationships, understanding yourself better, and developing new skills? If yes, you may be eligible to participate in our study. What is Systemic Therapy? Systemic therapy is a form of psychotherapy that focuses on relationships between people and the patterns of interaction within the systems that impact the well-being of the individuals within the system. Healthy systems are encouraged by seeking balance within the system, as well as working on the roles and relationships involved. What is the Purpose of This Study? The purpose of this study is to explore how systemic psychotherapy-informed growth paths and listener training can help people to achieve personal growth and positive change. We want to understand how participating in the growth path or listener training can affect your relationships, thoughts, behaviour, and feelings, and how your past experiences influence your current patterns, behaviour, and relationships. What Are the Benefits of Participating? By participating in this study, you will: * Learn more about systemic therapy and how it can help you improve your relationships and well-being * Gain insights into your own patterns, behaviour, and feelings, and how they are influenced by your past and present experiences * Develop new skills and techniques * Contribute to research by answering questionnaires How Can You Sign Up? If you are interested in participating in this study, please read the full advertisement and sign-up form here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/siteupdates/SoulfullyAButterflysContentGarden_2136/ResearchParticipationOpportunitySystemicPsychotherapyinformedGrowthPathandListenerTraining_311588/]. We will contact you to confirm your eligibility and provide you with more information. Hurry up, as we have limited time available to participate in this research opportunity!
Just 1 real friend..
by Ilikenature08
Last post
33 minutes ago
...See more I don't know why, but since I was little, I always tried my best to treat people like I wanted to be treated. Where I come from, it's like the "golden rule" and still. Never in my life did I have one single true friend. I also got betrayed by my ex-bestfriend in January this year. I mean, I do have friends, but they aren't the friends you can deeptalk with or that try to understand you. Half of them are toxic and see it as some kind of personality trade, and the others always have someone above you, so they care less. I also lost another friend a few months ago because I never really noticed how arrogant and toxic she was. I tend to only see the good side in a person and just ignore all the bad trades. I thought I knew why I did this, but right now, as I think about it, I just know why I did this with my ex-bestfriend. With the other friend, I kinda have no idea why. Maybe because she doesn't have other friends either, and I know how it feels to be lonely, but she isn't a good friend, so that's probably a reason why she doesn't have any. Well, anyways.. I just wish to find one single true and nice friend. Even if it's just one, I don't need more. I tried so many times to make new friends, especially this year after the loss of my ex-bestfriend online. But it didn't work. Right now, I'm so lost and lonely. I have nobody to talk to, no good friends, I can't talk to my parents about stuff like this, and I don't think they could help anyway. I just got no one, yk. Some days, I don't think about it and just push the thoughts away, but that won't work forever, and eventually, I'll just feel lonelier & lonelier. Sorry for the long message. I guess you can tell that I don't talk to anyone about this.. Thanks for reading my message if you read until the end♡
Need some motivation 😭
by sincereSea4693
Last post
10 hours ago
...See more I feel like I still have connection with someone that I nvr met we broke up before 1.5yrs still he is in my memory I recently came to know about his new gf but am not 100 percent sure if she is gf or not It feels so bad knowing this am overthinking about this a lot how to calm myself plz tell
My bestfriend betrayed me
by neatSpruce4536
Last post
11 hours ago
...See more I m just 17 . Just got into college with my bestfriend (maybe not even friend now)lets call her amy. We both have been friends since 7th standard and It always felt better having her by my side. We were going to different schools but we decided to go to same college an We did it. I was expecting my college life to be best .Amy and I chose same room in hostel and it's 2 seater. We got the whole space to ourselves. Then came her school friend( let's call her peggy). Even though she is in different room in hostel and goes to different class in college but now Amy and her are always chit chatting and talking about Idk what. At first I thought it was normal but with time they started talking in their own gestures or secret codes. First both them went out and I was alone in hostel and then again other day they both went somewhere. Then they came back and lied to me about going. They are definitely hiding something. I saw chat in Amy's phone when three of us were sitting in the room and they both were texting each other that when I will go out of room so that they both plan something. They were cursing me😭. My mom trusts her alot and I can't tell her anything but at night they both hangout or goes on walk and I am always alone in the room. Idk what to do. It's my first semester and I can't leave in any condition . I don't have any friends beside Amy and now what should I do? How will I spend four years? I want to make her realise everything but I can't. I just *** up😭
My bestfriend betrayed me
by neatSpruce4536
Last post
11 hours ago
...See more I m just 17 . Just got into college with my bestfriend (maybe not even friend now)lets call her amy. We both have been friends since 7th standard and It always felt better having her by my side. We were going to different schools but we decided to go to same college an We did it. I was expecting my college life to be best .Amy and I chose same room in hostel and it's 2 seater. We got the whole space to ourselves. Then came her school friend( let's call her peggy). Even though she is in different room in hostel and goes to different class in college but now Amy and her are always chit chatting and talking about Idk what. At first I thought it was normal but with time they started talking in their own gestures or secret codes. First both them went out and I was alone in hostel and then again other day they both went somewhere. Then they came back and lied to me about going. They are definitely hiding something. I saw chat in Amy's phone when three of us were sitting in the room and they both were texting each other that when I will go out of room so that they both plan something. They were cursing me😭. My mom trusts her alot and I can't tell her anything but at night they both hangout or goes on walk and I am always alone in the room. Idk what to do. It's my first semester and I can't leave in any condition . I don't have any friends beside Amy and now what should I do? How will I spend four years? I want to make her realise everything but I can't. I just *** up😭
Frustrated
by HelloHereWeAre
Last post
1 day ago
...See more There is something about me that I cannot figure out, and it is frustrating. For some reason no one ever takes any of my concerns seriously. Instead, they either gaslight me or even punish me. The effects of such have caused me immense hardship, and I genuinely do not know what to do anymore. I have gone through years of therapy to learn communication techniques. None of them work. I have changed myself, multiple times, to be the person they say is acceptable. That has never been good enough. I have read books and studied and it still does not change anything. Yesterday, I asked … no, I begged … for someone to please tell me what it is about me that makes people do this. They did not know. I have asked this question numerous times within the last decade, and they never know. Although they are only one person, I feel like if someone could just tell me then it would be applicable overall. This is a serious problem in that it has genuinely resulted in tremendous detriment in my life and those around me. More often than not, my concerns have ended up proving to be valid too, so I do not even have a track record of be overly worried or having invalid concerns. Could it be sexism and/or discrimination of some sort?
Hello frnds
by problematiclife27
Last post
1 day ago
...See more Actually i'm new to this 7 cups app And the most important thing is that I never had good frnds..... I need frnds To talk to chat..... I need frnds
My friends and I sorta had a fight.
by digii
Last post
2 days ago
...See more I'm not even sure if this is the right thread for this sorta thing, and it is definitely lengthy, but for a little back story, my friend group was made in 2022, but around 2023 a member left (we'll just call them R) due to having conflicts with some members (more specifically members K and N). I'm not truly sure about what the conflicts were about because I heard 2 different stories from 2 different sides for ages, but I stayed friends with R, because we got along just fine in the groupchat, and we're getting along in private dms too. Occasionally, someone from the group would ask "Hey digi why are you still friends with R after all they did?" and I've always found that question to be... a bit weird? because if I like R then why not be friends? They didn't do anything to me personally or speak bad about me, and it sucks that they talked about everyone else like that. But on Thursday things changed. They started talking about R again, and this time they were sorta demanding? Like "Oh you can't ignore this digi, tell us why you and R are still friends!" and I'm not saying that I felt attacked, but the tone of their messages felt very insulting, and I really don't wanna sound mean, but they were a-holes and they were pinning everything R did on me and that it was my fault that their public and private accounts got blocked by R. I just ended up asking them what they wanted, telling them that I do acknowledge what R did and said and that R was very mean to them and that I apologize for that (something I didn't even have to do), I even told them that R moved on and that it was their turn to move on as well, and N told me I "lost the plot". Honestly there was not even any plot to begin with, it was all just pointing fingers. Eventually M (another member) sent a long message, about being disappointed in me, and apologizing on behalf of everyone (even admitting that, and I quote "Digi, I do think we acted like a-holes to you. After rereading everything our anger looked like it made us go on the same level as the person we were calling out. For that I am very sorry.") and in M taking a break. And it's been almost 4 days since a message was last sent and I don't know how to feel. I feel hurt and I feel ashamed, but I'm still processing my thoughts. None of them have interacted with me or any of my posts, but I think everyone is slowly getting back to normal. I don't think saying or doing things differently would've changed anything, but it's how it is. I wish I had the courage to tell them I'm sorry (honestly I don't even know what for I just feel the need to apologize to them). They were all a-holes, and so was I, but all of them have their own struggles (N lives in Ukraine close to the Russian border so imagine how that is, M is simply drained from everything, R's home life is awful [I think that's why they did the things they did {not defending them but it felt necessary to mention}] and the others I genuinely don't know) and I guess all the anger just accumulated and turned into this. And I don't blame them at all. I just wish things turned out differently.
Ex friend sabotages me
by modestShade4954
Last post
2 days ago
...See more My ex friend is now spreading rumours all around my campus and its hurtful
Need a friend
by fairmindedRaspberries8795
Last post
Wednesday
...See more I am 18 f and way too lonely. My old friends they never try to talk with me and I am the only one starting conversation. So anyone lonely we can be good friends.
Need a friend for teens
by warmheartedBunny6808
Last post
Wednesday
...See more Hi I'm bunny
Mutual friend doesn't like me
by FoxesareCool
Last post
Tuesday
...See more My boyfriend and I have a mutual friend and she hangsout and talks to him like normal but anytime I reach out I either get silence or some other form of distant chatter. We used to all be pretty close net but now it just seems all she cares about is chatting to my BF, now obviously im okay with them hanging out and such i trust my BF but it really rubbed me the wrong way when she knows im around too and only really wants to talk to him. I personally have zero clue to how I may have upset her even my boyfriend is perplexed on the whole thing, saying that she doesn't even ask about me anymore. I'm just asking for advice on what you would do? I do miss the times when we all used to be close but since she's been acting all weird, I really don't think thats possible now.
Looking for people that would be welling to chat :)
by user294739
Last post
Monday
...See more Hello everyone, I’m from chile and I suffer from depression and anxiety. I was raped by my ex partner that i had to see every day because we went to the same school. I pressed charges against him and ended up getting a restraining order and the school didn’t do anything. I had to change schools because I couldn’t stand seeing him. Every time I did I would get panic attacks and having to go home. Also my best friend at the time is now dating him after knowing everything that happened. This made me attempt suicide 2 times. Now Im in this new school and it has been better but also really hard to make a lot of friends because Im currently in high school and all the friend groups are all really formed. I would love to talk to someone, (they don’t necessarily have to understand what im going through). thanks

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