Caregiving Stress

@Mermaidtails

Hi welcome to 7 cups I am glad that you are here. I have no personal or professional experience on being a caregiver. But I know what it is like when someone in your family or friend has cancer. Since my grandmother had it. When you find out that someone has cancer it can be easy or hard to get someone into treatment or have surgery to try to get the cancer out of the body and well as helping the person get around in their lives. Another thing that can be challenging is saying goodbye to them. Because you are going to miss them being with you when they pass over. I am sorry that this is happening to you and in your family. I am here for whenever you would like to talk to me. 

@Mermaidtails I could relate to both of these situations feel free to message me if you need anything

Hello! I am also 49, and I am caring for my mother who is on hospice. I have a full time job, and a 10 year old to take care of as well. I honestly thought when Mom came home on hospice, it would be 2 weeks tops, and then my life would resume to something somewhat normal. We have been home since January 10th. She isn’t herself at all because of the amount of ammonia going to her brain. She screams and cries most of the day. I can honestly say that I am mentally completely gone. This is probably the hardest thing I have ever done. I am stuck at home when I’m not at work, because I can’t leave her alone. I understand what you’re going through. It’s horrible, and I am sorry you’ve been doing it 4 years!!

@Mermaidtails   hi. while I cant say I'm anywhere near your age (I'm 17) the stress in my life is incredibly high too. my dad is terminally ill as well. for 11 years we didn't know what was wrong with him. I grew up with him throwing up, constant late night hostpital visists with parents gone till 2 AM. then last year they found out he had a rare illness called MALS. he got the surgery this last May before summer started, but they found out that this was only part of the problem with him. he hasn't entirely recovered from the surgery and is on and off feeding tubes all the time. the doctors don't know what's wrong anymore. 

point of all that, was I understand this portion of what your going through. its not the same, cancer in a way is scarier and always takes the most wonderful people out of this world. I hope everything turns out well for your husband. I know how scary it is to have loved ones hurting, and you cant help them. everything will work out the way God has intended it to though. no matter how painful the end result may be. Trust in God. trust in yourself. everything goes from good to bad to better. right now your in the bad. but better is coming. :)