This feels unbelievable
My mother has been widowed a few months. My dad was loving but difficult in many ways. My mom started dating and immediately got taken in by a scammer who she sent stuff to overseas.
3 weeks ago today she started talking online to this new guy she's dating. 2 weeks ago today was their first date. Today she tells me they're going to get married in the spring, that he hasn't proposed but they've talked about it and it's certain.
She's given me clues to think he is very hard up. She is not. He would move in with her. I believe she is continuing a lifelong pattern of being used by men. But I promised a week ago to stop trying to talk her about these things so I am just trying to be cool to her face.
So, I think either: 1) the Universe intervenes, or, 2) I have to leave her to her consequences because she's tired of hearing people's opinions.
@gentleEast8898
It sounds like you are in a very frustrating position with your mom. Online dating can be tricky because you want to believe everyone there is a good person has good intentions. Unfortunately, there are people with nefarious intentions too. I am sorry to hear she's already been scammed. It sounds like her new friend may not have good intentions either. I imagine it was a shock to hear that she plans to marry someone she's met online this spring. It sounds like you have done what you can to try to inform, advise, and protect her. If the universe intervenes, I hope she won't be taken advantage of by this person. It sounds like she's not open to talk about it with you or anyone else close to her. I can imagine it is difficult for you to see her making choices that might cause her a lot of heartache. Even more so because this has been an ongoing pattern in her life and yours.
