Parents Arent There (Triggering)
We keep seeing Öh mother but some of us never had good memories with our mother/father. We had parents but not in actual-so we dont miss them when gone . Share your note what you would like to say to your parent/parents. Whether its stressed out or caring doesnt matter-share it . A note to a parent which you felt must have been understood .
And incase you loved them-share that note too.
@ItsPreeti
Indeed, not all relationships are of love and affection. Thank you for holding this space to encourage people to share how they truly feel and what they'd like to convey to their parents/ guardians!🌞
To everyone coming across, remember that your experiences are true and your feelings are valid.💛
@ItsPreeti
Yep, as someone with a psychologically and emotionally abusive mother, I always try not to laugh when people talk about mother-daughter bonds because it was virtually nonexistent for me. If I could say one thing to her... I dunno, she wouldn't listen to me anyways or let me finish what I would be trying to say. She's a very loud and stubborn person and never really lets people give her criticism or even just any conflicting view without gaslighting the crap out of them. Maybe something about leaving me alone? I've had a restraining order against her for the past year but she keeps pushing her lawyers to talk about reunification therapy, when I couldn't care less about reunification with her. I just want her completely out of my life. So just something that would make it clear that I am much better off without her and that she needs to stop trying to butt into my business I guess.
As for my dad, he is the kindest, most patient person I have ever met and I am so blessed to have him as a father. Although we don't often understand each other, he tries very hard to see my point of view and is so empathetic with me when I am having a *** day and (unknowingly) take it out on him. So all I would really tell him is that I love him ❤️
@ItsPreetiIt is indeed true and I've been through it too..there were times I wished my dad was gone for good .and then again I wished he didn't cuz I've always been confused because of his mixed signals and feelings . I would've told him (if I had the guts to speak to him) that :
Baba,
I've always loved you no matter how much you've traumatised me, I donno what you went through or why you are the way you are..maybe you had times you too felt you were too horibble for a role of a father. Dad, the guilt of you working in a heating summer for all these years and falling ill while you went to earn a bread for our house still stops me from hating you thinking youve done alot for me. We've come far. If I could I would only teach you how to love your child .. I've had times I prayed I never have a husband like you or a father like you to my children..but again I stop thinking of the times you went all your way out just to earn for me just so i could be educated and learn to have my voice. I love you Baba I've always did it's just sometimes your way of expressing your love looks like threat more than admiration.
