Am I being "overactive"?

Hey @BumbleKitty, I'm really proud of you for finding a way to express your thoughts, and to try to validate your own feelings, a hard thing to do, I feel.

Upsetting to know your mom tries to normalize his unkind behavior towards you, and makes you question how you feel, and if it's valid to, I get how much more stress this must add for you, feeling overwhelmed already. :(

It is indeed very much okay for you to feel threatened and overwhelmed around your father who seems to be telling at you constantly, it really is not fun and absolutely not comfortable being around someone who's rude and unkind to us, I see how emotionally unsafe it makes you feel, and it's your instinctive response to avoid that discomfort, by avoiding him entirely, again, which is very much okay, and not overreacting at all. ❤

@BumbleKitty It is important to prioritize yourself. When you feel better when your not at home that often, then don’t be at home so often, even if someone in your family doesn’t like it. In my opinion, you’re not overreacting.

Both of my parents are angry very often, nearly everyday but I just don’t have the energy or time to go somewhere else (I’m autistic).

Lots of love,

-Just

Hello, @BumbleKitty

I am extremely proud that you have posted and expressed your views at a delicate age in your life, I know all too well that as a teenager, it is tough when you have one parent behaving one way and the other defending the behaviour.

I can imagine how you are feeling, but rest assure, as a teenager, I never had 7 cups, but you do and you are using it so very well done to you for using the service for support.

I am a parent to 7 children, and you do not deserve to be treated this way by your father, you deserve to be loved, cared for and provided for, that's why we have kids right? You didn't ask to be here.

It is disheartening to know your mum is condoning this behaviour which is not acceptable.

I don't know the situation so I won't try to understand the extent of the situation, and I think you could benefit from speaking to a listener, we have teen listeners and Adults that can listen to teens, they are called Adult-teen Listeners so it may be a good idea for you to have a chat with one of them so that they can guide you in finding a solution (Just remember that they cannot give you advice or solutions) but will guide you in reaching the best solution for yourself.

Once again, thank you for reaching out, you are very welcome at 7 cups and we are here to listen to you should you need to.

Take care :)

@BumbleKitty That sounds like a really hard situation! Make sure you put yourself and your mental health first, if it is upsetting you then you are not overreacting by expressing your feelings! It is perfectly normal for you too feel scared or threatened by your Dad, if he is treating you this way. Still very sad to hear 😕 I hope you soon find things easier in your home life. Sending my love <3

@BumbleKitty

no one can tell you what you feel is wrong.

I don't believe you are overacting at all. God gave us instincts for a reason and obviously you are acting on your instincts. Your mom is the one who is overacting in my opinion. It is not healthy for your dad to make you feel threatened not is it healthy for your mom to invalidate your feelings. I feel like those are both metaphorical branches on the tree of abuse. Follow your gut feelings, always. I'm not encouraging you to be disrespectful towards your parents though, but you must always take care of yourself and your mental health, no matter how old you are (aka now and in the future). Do what you feel is right. Reaching out, like you have here, is a great thing. Never allow yourself to become isolated and alone. Continue to speak up whenever you need help, especially if you feel unsafe! May God bless you.

P.S. If you need someone to talk to, feel free to get ahold of me on here. I'm not on here everyday but I am a few times a week.