Comments on Appearance: Coping
I have a colleague in my office, who nearly every day finds it appropriate to comment on my size/weight/thinness. Last week she approached me and asked me if I was sick. This week she told me I need to eat more. A few days before that a comment about my weight and being cold.
I GET IT. I don't look healthy. Comments are not helping tho. :/
I realize this person may have issues with her own self esteem and weight and so I often ignore her comments. But it's triggering and a bit much now. Ugh. Apart from flat out telling her I have an ED and I'm working towards recovery I'm not sure how to approach this tactfully. How do you deal with this?
Thanks.
@KatieMoon1 This is something that I've had issues with as well. Since I have gained some weight during my recovery, many of my friends and former high school teachers comment on my weight almost as soon as they see me. It feels really dehumanizing and I agree that it doesn't help.
@KatieMoon1
If I were in your shoes and someone constantly talked about my appearance, I'd say, "thank you for your concern but I would rather have you not comment on my appearance. It makes me uncomfortable and self conscious." Any self respecting individual will apologize and then move on. If she continues to comment, I'd probably talk to your boss. Whether she has self esteem issues or not, she has no right to comment excessively about your looks.
I hope this helped, good luck and take care 