All I think about is food
I have a bad relationship with food. I eat when I am happy. I eat when I'm stressed. I eat when I'm bored. And never when I'm hungry.
@scarletWheel62
Hello,
Sorry to hear that your relationship with food isn't the best.
Have you explored any coping mechanisms or distractions that you can use instead.
For instance, when I struggle with this, I like to indulge in my hobby of drawing instead<3
It helps to distract me.
All the best💛✨
Hi there, Scarlet, I'm Platy. I very much relate to your post's title All I think about is Food. I have a strange relationship with food right now; it has been called an eating disorder by my doctor and my primary care doctor too. It is an ED, but I get frustrated sometimes by how much of my time is taken up by thinking of, talking about, or planning for food. Anyhow, I don't really want to get into all that right now, but I will if you have questions. If my experience can help someone else, I would be glad for that.
As far as your post, the title, and what it says: I just wanted to let you know that you are NOT ALONE. I am here and there are many others at 7cups (and in this subcommunity) who are willing to talk with you and help you out with food stuff. I appreciate 7cups in this way rather a lot!
Take care, Scarlet. Do write us some more, if you'd like :)
~ Platy
@heather225 @asilentobserver @7cupsCommunity @scarletWheel62
Hi cyanPlatypus6370! Glad to know I am not alone. Also glad to know that it's a condition that can be diagnosed. Kindly share with me some of your coping skills to get through the day.
Hi Scarlet, I'm finally getting back here to see you replied to me :) Thank you :)
Coping skills to get through the day... umm...
This may sound kind of backwards, but sometimes if I can get very focused into something - like watching an intense movie, reading a book "a real page-turner," etc - that distracting thing/activity can be powerful enough to get my mind to focus on that thing instead of food.
Writing things down helps me a lot too. I'm not so good at writing out grocery lists (why? I don't know) but sometimes it is helpful for me to just get out some scratch paper or open a blank email message and just write. Or writing in a notebook or journal :)
I write things like:
I am feeling ______
I am thinking about _______
Today when I did (activity), I felt (emotion, feelings).
Today, I wish that I could _______
Today, I am missing ________
or even writing out a 'body check-in' like right now my legs feel _____ or (this part of) my head hurts right now. At this moment, my stomach feels ______. etc. etc. etc.
You can also write out things like safety statements or grounding exercises. (Safety statements are things that are very concrete and exactly true. Writing them or speaking them aloud is helpful because it sort-of forces your brain to focus on the present - here, now, the Truth of what is actually happening for you atm.) So, for me, right now ...
Example (safety statements): I, Platy, am safe. I am sitting on my couch. I am at home. It is 1:22 AM. It is Sunday night, nearly Monday. ... ... Easy, simple, factual statements. These help you to get back into the rational part of your brain, to help you to make better decisions.
Example (grounding): Write two things you can hear, see, touch, smell, and taste at that moment.
Example (grounding): Physically place both of your feet on the floor/ground. If you are sitting, place your hands comfortably on your knees or at your side. Focus on breathing. Inhale. Exhale. Very deliberately. You can repeat to yourself something like, "calm" or "relax" or even simply "inhale ... exhale."
Challenge yourself to start with doing just this for 3 minutes. Move to 4, then 5 minutes. Calm, peaceful, breathing and focusing on thinking of just one or two words can help your body to physically relax ... and can train your brain to stop 'being all crazy and scattered!' and help you to make a good decision as for what to do next.
*** Disclaimer! *** I am not a doctor or therapist. I have been a client in therapy for a long time and I have learned skills and tools in classwork. These are some things that have worked for me. If they help you also, that's great! If you have any questions or need more guidance, please consult your personal physician or mental health professional.
@scarletWheel62 @bookshugstea6370 @anomalia @barncat @internalacceptance
If you have other questions or just want to talk, I'm here. and Remember dear one, you are not alone! Please continue to reach out. We here at 7cups would like to walk with you. ~ Platy <><
@cyanPlatypus6370- Thank you for sharing your coping strategies with us. They are simple and relevant for many issues. Liked the disclaimer that you are not a professional 🐴❤️❤️❤️🐴
💜 @barncat 😛 Ha! I'm not sure you are supposed to *like* that 😜
I felt compelled to add that part because on 7cups I am not a therapist or doctor. But in real life, I was training to become a clinical therapist. So 😛 ... and HI !!! by the way 😀 ❤️ Platy
This is so helpful. Thank you so much! I'm going to put them in practice right away. Love and Light ✨
@scarletWheel62 You are very welcome. I hope something here (or another somewhere else) will give you some help in grounding and getting "moved back" into the rational part of your brain. The thinking and problem solving part.
I'm not sure I've ever really typed this out like this before. I may need to bookmark this page for myself! 😮 Platy
#LearnFromPastSelf #WhatToTellMyFutureSelf ... hmm ... (Platy is entering pondering mode... )
oh and I nearly forgot! ((Platy offers ... greatest-most-helpful-kind of hug that Scarlet could use most right now ... to Scarlet)) 💙
@scarletWheel62 you aren't alone. take care and know u are valid. sorry that the relation u have isn't the best
