New here, looking for advice
I have been struggling with overeating for a very long time. I've been on the hefty side weight-wise for as long as I can remember. I love food, and sometimes I cant control it
My parents made matters a little worse. They always commented "do you need to eat that?" And "save some for everyone else". I distinctly remember my 16th birthday. I was going shopping for some new sneakers with my father. While I was driving, he started to berate me about my weight. He told me that I needed to excercise and that the type of excercise i was currently doing wasn't enough. I was so hurt, and I cried the rest of that night.
When I hit college, it was amazing! My parents weren't there to criticize what I ate and what I did. I started working out more, and ate quite healthily. It felt amazing.
Fast forward a few years, and I graduated. I couldnt afford basic living expenses because I was working a cheap retail job. I had no choice but to move back in with my family. Cue skyrocketing stress, and I put all the weight back on plus some.
Since then, I have moved out, but I still find myself falling back into those old habits of eating out too much, and eating more than I should. I lack a lot of self control as well as motivation. How do I get it back?
@LabRat02 I don't know exactly what to say, but I think the first step is to start doing little things-- like drinking more water, pr even just working to develop a healthy new habit. Sometimes finding a friend to "partner up with" is helpful too because you can motivate each other rather than yourself. try to set small, attainable goals, rather than going straight for one big outcome-- little steps lead to big change. Also, find healthy ways to deal with stress to try to avoid the bad habits. It also helps to try and distract yousel with other activities, maybe find a hobby to immerse yourself in and that might help.
I hope some of this advice helped, I'm sorry if it's all things you've heard before, and I wish the best for you.
Hi,
i have struggled with anorexia for over a year and a half. It has landed me in hospitals and crisis centres. I semi recovered but im starting to relapse. With the whole quarentine thing ive been stuck at home where i have to eat if i dont want to be suspicious.
my family is in no way supportive and has forgotten about my mental illnesses. They constantly fat and skinny shame me. One minute im fat and need to be on a diet and the next im too skinny and they laugh and sneer.
im at a loss of what to do. Ive been forced to eat and its freaking me out. My stomach hurts so much and im terrified to look at my weight even though i do everyday.
does anyone have some advice?
@FragileStateofSanity
Hi Fragile,
Coming here was a good start. I am sure you will find here sensible people that will support you. What I could say to you now given how the situation is for most of the world in quarantine is stay calm (I know is easier to say than done, but is stil doable) prioritize your personal physical and mental help and stay focused on your recovery. Consider that you have an extra support next here with us at 7cups. Chat with listeners available, read and post in the forums. Distract yourself, watch good series or movies that makes you laugh
Take good care of yourself. See you around
@FragileStateofSanity
Hi, I'm new here too, I'm almost getting relapse with the quarantine too, but keep in mind that its temporary, it will pass, it help me and maybe it will help you too.
About what you said about your family talking about your weight, I've been there, actually when anybody talks about my body weight it affects me in a negatively way, but the thing is that probably they don't know about that and probably they trying to help, I don't know what exactly your situation is but maybe been open about how you feel about that may help.
I am trying to go through this as well.
@FragileStateofSanity I can empathise with you . My family used to shame me for being 'fat' as a child which led to me majorly restricting my eating to the point it was borderline anorexic. Then they'd comment on the lack of curves . Due to complex family dynamics and other issues I've left home at 16 and cut off all contact ; started a good diet , exercise , no issues . I've suffered something traumatic and let my diet slack which resulted in not significant weight gain . That coincided with me and my family getting back in touch . The comments were endless. Cut contact again . Result Happy and healthy took real interest in a sport and before covid I was ready to take it to competition level . Now with covid and isolation I've managed to stick with the diet and exercise up until about two weeks ago and sort of feasting and fasting behaviour started which means still trying to get to the bottom of.but family can be a massive trigger . When I was underweight they'd shame me for not having womanly curves when I got them they shamed me for a beer belly which factually wasn't even there 🤷🏻♀️ I am not sure what they would say about my athletic figure now but I'm sure there'd be something
Hello,
I came here because I'm nearly a relapse, last year it started, I relapse from bulimia a few times, and now I'm getting almost relapse with anorexia.
This quarantine it's been difficult for me, a few days ago I lost my dog, I had him for 15 years, since I was about 11 years old. I also started to struggle with money because of the covid 19, I hope it will get better.
About my eating disorder it started when I was 15 years old when I stopped eating after bad things happened in my life (maybe I just don't know how to deal with bad things), after a period of time I was weighing 40kg and my height is 174cm, and I believed I was in control but somehow some friends and my family convinced me I was not, like it was real that if I continued I could die, and there's where I try to recovery and I actually ended up with bulimia and it was worst because I was still with the eating disorder but had put on some weight, and recently I gain weight and I am not handling it well. I mean I have 59 kg now, two days ago I was with 60kg which in my head is unacceptable so I started to counting calories again and losing weight, it's all that I can think right now, to lose weight because I freaking out with those 60kg, and I feel I only be in a safe zone when I reach 55kg.
Hi, new here and I'm not really sure if I'm doing this right :/. Anyway, I'm struggling with eating on a regular basis in amounts that are healthy. If I am eating, it's very little. It just doesn't feel right to eat anymore, it makes me feel guilty and sick if I eat anything that makes me feel moderately full. I don't know what to do
I'm new here too. I'm overeating constantly during the pandemic and when I'm anxious and depressed. I do a lot of comfort eating, but I'm worried about the impact it's having on my health. I feel powerless to change it and need hope and encouragement.
@Kathy1212
hey, I feel the same! Do you want to talk and motivate each other?
