I'M TIRED
Hey Evelyn! I am thankful to you and Charlie for sending me the link for this place.
I am sorry to inform you that I am tired of searching for listeners regarding my anorexia nervosa. The listeners I found are either misogynistic or uninformed about the issue. They ask me to just EAT more as if it's that simple; as if I am not eating to follow an ADVANCED diet.
They tell me that I need to stop fussing about it as if I am just grabbing attention. I and several others are losing pounds and pounds, and feeling hungry all day. Who would WANT to do that? We have a mental disorder but we aren't crazy.
They tell me ED is a choice. They tell me ED is all in our mind and can be changed like turning off a light bulb, and that we don't need help at all.
I am tired of this. I think we ED patients might have done the worst of crimes in our past lives, and this is our punishment.
I hope posting it in your gazebo might be helpful. Thank you again Evelyn!
@SrijanSinha
I understand what you say, I felt misunderstood many times myself and that made me feel frustrated and angry even with therapists, but I have found out that each person goes through a unique process, and sometimes it is difficult to know what to say or how to say it. I am sorry if I said something that made it worse for people who have an ed, just by having it and even studying about it doesn't mean one knows what to say or how to help.
So, I understand what you say and I hope you can find the help you need. In my own experience, I had to let go of expectations of someone who could undestand and who would know what to say, besides since we are suffering what others say can hurt us more than in other circumstances so it is really difficult. And if we find that person it is hard not to depend on them.
I hope you can be understood and find that person that can listen, that won't judge and that will be there for you on the path to recovery.
Hugs,
@SrijanSinha Hey there! I'm Mel, forum mentor here in 7Cups. Wanted to let you know that I've moved this thread to applicable place in the ED community (within Anorexia Support subforum). Evelyn's gazebo area is for news and updates solely.
I'm tagging Eve anyway, cause I understand you want her to see this. I hope you can get the help you deserve! You've raised some very valid points
@EvelynRose
