Keeping crying
Hi :) I was wondering... When I get really really frustrated or when someone punishes me for no reason saying that I did smth that I didn't do or more specifically, when I get involved in situations that I cannot control and there's a lot of anger involved as well as yelling, I cannot help but start crying. And keep crying and so I cannot sustain my arguments any more and I get more frustrated and the circle goes on and on. I was wondering if something like this has ever happened to you and how can I control myself?
@happyDreamer23
Hi there. That's such a difficult thing to deal with! I know how you feel, because when I'm upset I can't stop crying once I get started. I have to tell the person I am talking to that I need a minute. I go into the bathroom, blow my nose, and put a cold washcloth over my face.
It's hard not to start up again, though.
I've learned to talk through my tears. My nose may be blowing snot bubbles but I have said, "I know I'm crying, but I'm actually mad and will keep talking to get my point across." As I talk, my throat tries to close up and my voice sounds awful, but I can often move through the feeling and when it finishes washing through me I'm still talking! Crying doesn't paralyze my voice anymore. I refuse to be one of those people who stops and apologizes for tears.