ADHD conflict

I have definitely experienced that before!

Overall, I wish more things were more often presented as tips that tend to help, but acknowledge they don't work for everyone.

As for dealing with it, it depends on the situation, sometimes just explaining why it's not going to be a good fit works. Other times venting about it helps. With someone like what you experienced if there was a way to give feedback on the material I would try that.

Hey! So, I’m new in the community as per writing this but I really had to respond to what you describe above, because I can relate to this so, so much.

So even though I don’t follow something like a carreer planning class in my university, I now for the 2nd semester in a row had to (and with some mixed feelings also probably wanted to) drop a course because I just went into panic mode after a while. This semester I initially followed 5 courses, 4 of which were (relatively) well structured, 1 was extremely chaotic. So what happened was that the 1 course began to dominate my behavior and results in other classes too. Long process short, I dropped the chaotic course.

But in all fairness to my school - even though the whole structure of the school system still is… let’s say with some nuance it’s just not made any easier for neurodivergent people in my country - my school organizes a group for students with adhd from all over the university, no matter what they study (some faculties now starting their own is also a great development), and the coordinator of my study is a young man (I’m 24 so I find it kinda weird to even say that lol) who is really understanding of it. But I know the other side of it too, where the teacher who taught the chaotic course basically waived me off with the message that I shouldn’t complain. That honestly just hurts, I didn’t ask for this and yet I still feel like some people look at me sideways, and sometimes they just tell me, that it’s only ‘a modern disorder’ which would supposedly be caused by ‘technology’.

So reading what you experienced there basically feels painful to me too, because I can relate. I nowadays look for help when that happens to me, certainly if it’s causing me too much… not necessarily pain, but that it keeps me in its grasp, I can’t drop it and move on for a while. If I look for help I sometimes get other insights I hadn’t thought of or considered, sometimes ones I try to use as well. So what I basically created a circle around me with people I can contact if I need some help in the short-term. Sometimes I still fail to do that, and does that bother me? Absolutely. Sometimes I just need to be alone for a while too, just to process it at my tempo, which is basically the second strategy I use. Sorry for the long and at times unstructured story but your message fascinated me, good luck.

oh and if you want to message me about anything adhd study related, feel free to do so, I love to talk with others about it. It often helps to feel understood in my own experience. :)

I am alexithymic meaning I have problems identifying and expressing emotions. I've read in Google that the description for people that have no emotional intelligence is that they are jackasses. So I think that is discrimination and bullying.

I read that 10 percent of people in the USA have alexithymia.

I also have a lot of autistic traits according to most screening tests.

And, I have aphantasia. Which is that I have no minds eye. It is also multisensory aphantasia , meaning I can't hear, see, feel, taste, smell and other things in my mind's eye, because I don't have one.