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Is Being Around other Depressed People a Good Thing?

Batman94 July 4th, 2015

Pretty self explanatory. My own experiences with this are mixed and kind of interesting to me.

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11BlurryFace11 July 5th, 2015

It discouraged me to the point where we had nothing good to say and when I stopped hanging out with that person, it felt like a weight was lifted.

dreamforward July 5th, 2015

my experiences have also been mixed but i think it depends on the subject of our chats (these are online friends ftr) and how much we "expect" from the other? my worst experiences have been when I was depressed and a friend, former really, expected me to put myself aside to help her.... and i did. it stressed me out more and was not a good decision on my part. whereas finding solidarity and just realizing i am not alone in this feeling helps in other convos i have had with ppl whobare depressed or anxious at the same time i am. when we just bring up our feelings and talk about them with mutual respect and attention and support.

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Batman94 OP July 6th, 2015

I had at least one very good relationship with such a person. I think it was key though that our relationship began with something other than this link. It later became very obvious to both of us at some point that we had this common though. For both of us it seemed very good, although, through some coincidence, it seemed like our moods were frequently the opposite of each other.

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Andrea50 July 5th, 2015

It hurts when I have a friend that's depressed but I'm so messed up myself I don't have the skills , and I don't understand how to help them the best.

Sunfolding July 9th, 2015

I have a few friends that are on a spectrum of "dark" and "blue", and I honestly feel that being able to talk about our journey with each other has made our relationships stronger. At the end of the day, we never let our bad feelings take center stage of our conversations. If we did, I do feel it would become unhealthy.

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Batman94 OP July 10th, 2015

In the best case in my life this is what happened. It could be very good, and I wish I had another like that, but it is risky if anything goes wrong.

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RissaShaye July 9th, 2015

In my opinion it can be both a good and bad thing. The person could bring you down even more than you already are. Or you can find someone who really understands you and you can both help each other.

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virgo17 July 9th, 2015

Quite true ..but bad part can only happen if your heart too feel negative,insecure or anything like that.If you are stronger then its never bad. :)

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virgo17 July 9th, 2015

Its not totally bad to be around depressed people..personally My mom feel negativity more than positivity around.This obviously make me unhappy too . But rather to sit back i helped my mom to feel good in small things..i am always around her ,talk to her ,share happy moments ,have fun..and all this make her happy .She is now better than what she was in past 2 years.She now don't care about what others talk behind back.So in short if u really wanna help your close ones then its not bad to be around them .Infact think about how u would feel ,if u are able to make someone happy.

Hannah1121 July 9th, 2015

I've struggled with depression and one of my close friends does too. By having her in my life, I feel like I will always have someone who understands me. We can sometimes bring each other more down, but we are also constantly trying to build each other up. It's nice having someone to empathize with.

Esmescharlise97 July 24th, 2015

I think it's easier than with people without depression... They understand you and don't laugh at you... But why are so much people on depression?

Noca86 July 26th, 2015

I think it helps those of us who are depressed to avoid isolating ourselves. Of course it is always better to surround yourself with friends and those who are positive influences in your life than those who are not.

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Batman94 OP July 26th, 2015

That's a good point. I had never really thought about how it might help people who suffer from the symptom of social withdrawl.

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2cw16 August 14th, 2015

I think being around happy people only makes things worse for me, they don't rub off on me. It's like being out in the sun without sunglasses on and everyone around u has them. Does it help you? No, not at all. It'd be better to be surrounded by people who also deal with the same problem and come up with a solution together