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Being depressed and taking care of someone who is depressed

independentCurrent4558 April 13th, 2020

Hi everyone,

I suffer from anxiety and depression. My mother, who I love with, also suffers from anxiety and depression (and I truly believe has undiagnosed schizophrenia at times). I feel mentally exhausted. Throughout my teen years until now, I have always been the one taking care of my mother mentally. I have dealt with outbursts, calming her down, and talking about her past traumas nearly a daily basis. I've gotten better at dealing with these things and not taking it all to heart so much, but it truly is exhausting. I also find that I try to hide my depressive episodes because I feel like it'll make her worse, since she worries so much. Now I'm in the middle of a depressive episode and I'm frustrated because I didn't have a huge trigger and I just feel unmotivated constantly.

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lavenderpeach1107 April 14th, 2020

@independentCurrent4558 Hi there my friend. I'm so sorry to hear that you are going through such a tough time right now. Depression can be nasty and it makes even more difficult to deal with when you have another person to care for as well who also has depression. I can completely understand why you feel so mentally and emotionally exhausted. I have a huge issue with motivation as well and that can be really hard on us. Thank you for sharing this with our community and I sure hope you feel better soon. Have a beautiful night.

@independentCurrent4558

Its so challenging. What you are doimg takes lots of courage. You have my respect. Also, I am so touched seeing the amount of love you have for your mother.