Asking for help..
I've had body confidence issues since I was 9, and depression since I was 11. I'm 15 now and thought of suicide as not a way out of life because I hate it but more kind of an escape route?? Like if anything ever goes wrong, I'll just kill myself and everything will be fine. Kind of like that. I told my guidance teacher back in November I thought I was depressed but she doesn't know everything. I just told her I feel down. I want to tell her and my mum everything but I don't want them to freak out (also im terrified of telling them) how should I tell someone all this im a pretty secretive person..
Telling your parents about...
Depression (http://teenshealth.org/teen/your_mind/Parents/talk_depression.html)
Suicide (http://natashatracy.com/bipolar-disorder/tell-youre-feeling-suicidal-2/)
The second one also talks about what to do if they are unsupportiveor if they overreact. I hope this is helpful.
Oh darl you poor thing. Body issues are the biggest Bull!! And unfortunately most all (assuming you're) females have them. 15 is a tough slog. A body confident 15 year old is an extreme rarity. Sounds like you have it a little more intense than most.
Some advice I would give to try and stop the ridiculous 'self hate' of our body's. You never know, some work for you, these are things I do:
-when I feel like a hate my legs, I think about people who don't have legs, or have legs that don't function, and I imagine how ridiculous I would feel telling them how I don't like my legs.
-I think about my organs, and my muscles, and how everything is dependent on each other, in a miraculous symphony that gives me life. I think about how incrediblyhard each cell is working, just to keep me going, and try to feel grateful for the job they are doing. And make a note on how cruel it is to hate such a thing as my body, as ifeach working part would be hurt and offended upon hearing it.
-I collect photos of beautiful woman with similar body shapes to me, in sexy confident poses. You have to look outside of mainstream media, but doing that has helped me a lot. These woman have really changed my view on what beautiful is. I'm a little obsessed with that at the moment.
-exercise is key, any sort, it releases endorphins, and gives a reprieve from depression. Motivation is the hard part, I don't have any tricks for that, lemme know if you have any.
As as for telling your Mum, my advice, do it like a bandaid on a hairy leg. Just do it, quicker the better. Don't sit around Agonizing over it, trying to peel it off slowly, quick rip, done! One less thing to worry about.
And good luck darl. :)
Has anyone ever been admitted to a long term psychiatric residency program? I really feel that is what needs to happen for me to get the help I need. Counseling doesn't work. Seeing my psychologist once a week doesn't work. I mentioned it to my psychologist today and she wouldn't even entertain the idea. Didn't even acknowledge that I said I wanted to go.
Sorry! Somehow posted on the wrong thread.
Dear @AquaShip7311, Something abouta long-term facility sounded good to you. Maybe it's the safety and protection from the world that you yearn for. Maybe it's a sense of peacefulness. Maybe it's not having to go to work or go to school or have the obligation to DO anything--a chance to go away from everything and rest.
Perhaps a long-term facility seems appealing as a safe harbor.
The psychologist probably didn't mean to be so unsympathetic. She might be thinking on a practical level aboutthe patients she knows in such facilities and how incapable/disabled they are compared to you.
Maybe you can share with your psychologist the feelings and concerns that lead you to think about a long-term facility. And please feel free to send me a message and we could talk 1 to 1. Just click on my name below.
I understand what you mean about suicide being an escape route. That's what I've always said. It's like having a big "OFF" switch I could flick. Kind of reassuring...but no. There have been times when I've oh so nearly flicked that switch and I'm so glad I didn't...even though I'm still depressed. It's hard to believe when you're depressed...but people love you and need you and you can't do something so dreadful to them. I used to feel that I'd be doing people a favour if I died. I thought I was a burden, and horrible, and everyone would be clinking glasses as my funeral thinking thank God I'd gone...but I know now that isn't true. Suicide would devastate your family and friends. Destroy them. I know people who have never gotten over someone they knew killing themselves. The guilt.
15 with body issues? I don't mean to belittle how you feel but my God are you in the majority. It is so so normal to feel like that. I thought I was quite revolting in my teens and twenties...but now I look back at photos (I'm 47) and I can see thatI was lovely. Hard to say that...something nice about myself, but I feel like I'm looking at a different person. It's se weird. I felt so fat and ugly and I wasn't at all. It's like I was wearing distorting glasses.
My beautiful nieces both think they're fat. They agonise over their hair, or skin...but my god they're lovely. I bet you are too...and remember. EVERYONE has flaws. We call them "details" in my house. My son has a couple of scars on his face from an accident and we emphasise how they give him character. They tell a story. He's grown to love them.
Please really work at loving and appreciating your body.
hello....for the last month, ive been suffering from different unusual behaviours, like i rather sleep all the time, i barely eat, i get lonely or sad for no reason, i get angry easily. Which is new to me, i don't know why im feeling this way, so i was wondering if anyone can help me by telling me what im suffering from or what i can do to stop this from happening...
