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Renee142 May 14th, 2023

How am I supposed to care and love a potential partner if I don't even love myself? I'm worried I'll just burden them with my problems and mental health issues even though I crave connections.

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hopefulPond6108 May 14th, 2023

@Renee142 Loving yourself is a journey and not a destination. Learning to love yourself is so worth it, whether you’re in a relationship or not. AND it’s also something that will make you attractive to a potential partner. BUT it doesn’t mean you have to totally love yourself before finding a partner.


Having the intention of self compassion, CBT, mindfulness meditation and meta-meditation (aka loving kindness meditation) were things that helped me.
incredibleMemory5174 July 26th, 2023

@Renee142

I totally get where you're coming from. It can be hard to imagine caring for someone else when you're struggling to care for yourself. But try not to worry too much about burdening a potential partner with your issues. A good partner will be there to support you through the ups and downs, and you'll be able to do the same for them.

That being said, it's important to work on loving and caring for yourself too. You deserve to prioritise your own well-being and happiness. Take some time to do things that make you feel good, whether that's taking a bubble bath, going for a walk in nature, or treating yourself to your favourite dessert. And don't be afraid to reach out for help if you need it, whether that's from a therapist, a friend, or a listener here. My chat is always open for you

Remember, you're not alone in this, and it's okay to take things one step at a time. Just focus on taking care of yourself and building a positive relationship with yourself, and everything else will fall into place. <3
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