I just need someone to listen
I’m really tired of my mom ignoring my mental health. I’ve tried opening up to her thinking she was a safe space and I was clearly wrong. All she does is dismiss me and invalidate every feeling I have. Maybe my reasons for being depressed are valid to you but that doesn’t mean they aren’t valid. Like do you think I want to be depressed? Oh yes it’s so enjoyable bed rotting wasting my life and not having motivation to even take care of my self. Yes I do it just for fun because I have nothing better to do . Like wth. It’s really annoying but the second spending upsets her the world must stop and I must aid her side . What kind is delusional is that. It is getting to the point where it’s making me angry because it’s actually ridiculous. Like I self enflict every thing that’s happened to me. It’s the most insensitive thing I’ve heard of. I just wish I had someone to help me and be there for me if my mom won’t even help me who will
@Sulsulsims It really is heartbreaking to have your family not understand your struggles especially when it's a parent<3 You're right, your depression doesn't become invalid just because someone doesn't get it or doesn't want to get it. I hope she sees how much she is hurting you by her actions. Your anger and hurt are very much justified. Some people are too stuck in their ways to see other's pain but I've seen people change with time<3 and I hope she does too.
@BlueDarkAurora thank you this means more to me than you think. I know my family loves me but they don’t understand me mentally. It’s also a double standard with one of my parents because they had mental health issues in the past but somehow mine aren’t real or valid. It’s getting hard to keep going but I’m trying my best hoping one day things will be better and I will be happy like I used too. I hope you’re wonderful and well and I’m sorry for the late response I really have been having a rough time
@Sulsulsims aw don't worry about it<3 It's so sweet to see how appreciative you are and I really like the "I hope you're wonderful and well" :) and I hope things get easier for you.
I'm glad that you know your family loves you. I've seen family members, parents or friends being dismissive about mental health issues cause they can't seem to bear the fact that someone they love might actually be hurting inside. Maybe they don't have the right way to help and instead of learning more and educating themselves.. they try to make it invalid. Which is extremely painful<3
I hope you don't avoid your mental health based on their reactions or beliefs about it. It's you who is going through it all, you know how real it is. Keep standing up for yourself, reach out to whatever resources are available. You don't have to endure it on your own<3 Someday it will get better.
@BlueDarkAurora thank you 😊 i appreciate when people are kind to me because it’s not always that way. But I do know if someone is replying to me on this website they’re probably having some struggles as well I’m not here just to make me feel better I want better for others as well :) yeah I think that’s where my parents are at but I wish parents understood it’s not shameful to have mental health issues and if you love the person you should help them . Honestly I do deal with it usually secretly like going on here or just crying. My family is very emotional available for me but wants me to be available for them so it’s rough. But thank you again for taking time to talk to me and respond :)