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I feel so alone and don’t know what to do

affectionateWater3329 November 16th, 2021

I’ve been feeling this way for nearly a year. I have a few friends, but I know they can’t always be around. I was married for almost 9 years and moved out earlier this month. Even then, I felt alone because we didn’t talk and rarely even saw each other.


I just don’t know what to do when I feel this way. I can’t sleep and I’m having a hard time focusing on anything else.


I had plans tonight to hang out with a friend, but they canceled at the last minute. Now I’m just sitting here alone and cloudy headed.


I would appreciate any advice.

Thanks in advance.

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sereneSunset26 November 16th, 2021

@affectionateWater3329

You have certainly been through a lot of live events and changes in a relatively short amount if time. I feel that it's only understandable for you to be feeling the way you are at the moment.

I also know what it's like to have friends drop out at the last moment, or just be flakey. In my 6 years of living where I've been, I feel like I've put several people in the "best friend" category, only for most of those people to ultimately fade into the background of my life (which I realize does happen--people come and go).

It's been during these times that I've had to really remember for myself to practice self-compassion and to realize that, no matter what, I can have my own back.

ComfortingEagle November 16th, 2021

@affectionateWater3329 Thank you for sharing. It must have been really difficult.


I would recommend talking to listeners here on 7 cups to keep you company.

Engage in hobbies. Join online clubs like book clubs or anything else you like.

By focusing on improving yourself in whatever areas and capacity you choose. It will all redirect your attention towards more positivity. Hope it helps

affectionateWater3329 OP November 17th, 2021

Thank you @sereneSunset26


@ComfortingEagle Thank you. Maybe I just need practice pushing through the fog. After I couldn’t sleep, I tried focusing being creative, but I just couldn’t focus.