Every one has moved on but me
I’m having a hard time being stuck in the past. I can’t seem to move on suddenly from memories that happened. I recently have graduated high school a few months ago and moved off to college a few hours away. I thought it would be the best decision of my life because if I’m being honest my environment in high school was extremely toxic . But you know I had good memories here and there and I thought I had made really good friends. Anyways I move away and literally I have been spiraling down into depression. It doesn’t help that I haven’t made any friends in college and I’m all brand new in a huge city. After graduation everybody just drifted apart. And my mom always told me that would happen but I didn’t think it would to me and especially that fast. I can’t even get a text back from my “friends” but they can post on ***. Change already it really hard for me so it’s just been a lot for me . I’m really lonely and have no friends these days and idk what went wrong. I’m missing people that did ME wrong wanting to reach out to ppl I know I shouldn’t out of loneliness. But I’m losing everyone and everything all at once and idk what to do. Sorry for the rant but I have no one else to talk to this abt and I can’t keep holding it in . Thank you for reading if you did
@Sulsulsims
It absolutely sucks when we figure it out ... Your mom tried to tell you but we all think "not us ".
Until you are able to move on and face that friends are often transitory when we are in high school/ college/ even jobs when we move on the we will stay in touch.
No one returns calls cannot find time for that lunch date etc. I found a way to deal with it......
"everyone we meet is either a lesson or a blessing" learn what item they had to teach you, when they pull away do not take it personally but instead feel you received all you can from them and be open to the next level.. like a video game ..... trying to stay on level one only hinders you.
@toughTiger6481 that’s a really good perspective to look at it from I appreciate your time writing this to me it really helps in more ways then you know. I actually do agree with you maybe I am taking it personal and it’s not but it’s hard not too uk? I think it would be easier to get over if i currently had new friends but I don’t have anyone rn it’s weird I’ve never been in this situation. May I ask what are ways you were able to cope with this?
@Sulsulsims
Honestly when I am open to new experiences ........... people they show up...
i know that sounds odd but for example i started a new job knew almost no one just said hello and complimented someone on a shirt or something and before i left ( temp job) i had lots of what i call acquaintance friends .... they fill need while sharing school / work or a joint interest but i do not kid myself they are life long never fail ... i have found one or two of those but many serve a great purpose when i need it.....
my current job hope is long term i clicked with a co-worker we come from different backgrounds and philosophy but we both share our views and have a much bigger understanding with how the other one views the world ...
@toughTiger6481 yeah i understand that I try to be open and I think in a nice kind person I really am open to talking to anyone but idk sometimes ppl take advantage of that and are mean to me for some reason. I’m in college rn and I tried talking to these girls I was in a project with and or went well the first day I thought I was actually making some friends and literally the next class they were completely outcasting me. Idk it hurt more than usual idk why but I’m still trying to not give up. I’m also going to be starting a new job next week ! I like what you said about acquaintance friends I’m starting to think that’s what I had and confused them for life long friends because that’s usually my intention with any kind of relationship is long term but that’s not what everyone else wants. That’s really good you connected with someone that makes me happy for you : )
@Sulsulsims
Omg i get this soooo much i'm applying to high schools right now and 90% of the time i don't think about it or even know my top choice of a high school but my whole class has. the 10% of the time i am think abt it i'm crying