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Eating alone at lunch?

alexisannihilator August 11th, 2015

Hi um school for me is starting in a few days and I'm worried about eating lunch alone.All of my friends have a different lunch then me and I'm pretty shy. Any tips or advice?

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KoiFish August 11th, 2015

@alexisannihilator I had this problem in high school. As I take a look at it post-college this is what I noticed. My good friends all had lunch at a different period. Granted, there were only two lunch periods and this happened 3 out of the 4 years I was in high school. My luck, right?

I tried sitting at a table with some classmates I had, but after about a week or two I sensed that they weren't liking it too much from the vibe I was getting: snarky comments, eye rolling, etc. but they just didn't want to tell me to leave. All I did was sit with them and have polite conversation. *shrugs* Their loss.

I ended up sitting at another table with some friendly people whom I got to know, but didn't have any classes with. Then after eating I would excuse myself to go to the computer lab/library and finish homework. At the time I felt ugly, unwanted, and lonely.

Now looking back at it after going through college I realized that I don't remember too much of high school and that the people I met in high school...don't matter. I've kept in touch with a few friends and that's it. We all move on and our high school "identities" and labels don't matter.

Keep yourself busy and make friends with people who are open to making new friends. Focus on meeting good people who want to be around you and don't ever forget that you are at school to get an education, that is the ultimate goal. The awkwardness of high school is temporary.

NovaNorway September 14th, 2015

I am in 8th grade now and I don't have any friends at school. I sit at the end of a table, alone, with a bunch of popular dudes sitting around me. They are obviously not worth talking to though because they haven't talked to me. In art class I have a few "friends" that admire me probably just because I'm "good" and stuff I guess.

I sat with these guys in math for awhile and I know they would be amazing friends because one helped me the many varying times I asked for help. Another isn't the best at it but they are hilarious together. Anyway I got moved away because of seating charts and I have that class with them. Is there any way I could be friends with them? Like the tipe that always talk and stuff? I don't really know, I need to get friends this year but its difficult because I'm quiet.

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Peteseyeliner08 February 12th, 2016

@NovaNorway hey I am exactly everything you said.

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