Tired of being tired
I feel like I’m never heard. I’m made to feel like I’m always wrong. I’m tired of feeling this way. I have loved ones who know what I’m dealing with right now, but when I try to express my feelings on certain things, I’m told I’m being selfish. Just something as simple as, that topic makes me sad at the moment, can we not talk about it? It turns in to giant fights. I have issues communicating my feelings and other have issues understanding the difference between my feelings and thoughts. Today, I had a huge fight with my wife. I told her the way she was talking to me was upsetting me. It made me feel a certain way. Now, this feeling wasn’t what I actually think about her, but the emotion I was overcome with made me feel like she was saying something I knew she’d never say. I tried to explain that I cannot control these feelings and emotions that overcome me, but she didn’t really understand. She just kept saying it’s not fair to her that she has to be cognizant of my depression but I don’t have to be cognizant of saying things that hurts her. I’m not viewing it like that. I was simply trying to communicate that I didn’t want to continue on with the subject we were discussing because it was giving me feelings of sadness. If I can’t express my feelings to her, who can I other than my therapist once a week? I understand that she feels like I’m making her out to be a bad guy, but that’s not my intention. And when I try to explain this she just says she feels like she’s being gaslit. I don’t know where to go from here. I’m tired of feeling like I’m wrong all of the time. I’m to the point I’m wondering why I’m even here anymore.