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Spending New Year alone

User Profile: BelialKnez
BelialKnez December 31st, 2017

Anyone else "celebrating" it alone today? How will you manage it, what are your plans and how do you cope with it?

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User Profile: PerfectStorm426
PerfectStorm426 December 31st, 2017

Its just another day to me. I dont feel that special "magic" of holidays anymore. I will be doing my usual, playing guitar and having a few beers till i get tired then go to bed, hopefully without thinking too much about how my world is now just existing, Nothing special. I just keep telling myself that it is just another day. Thats it.

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User Profile: hardworkingApple2356
hardworkingApple2356 January 1st, 2018

@PerfectStorm426

Sorry, you spent New Years alone, I did as well, it is hard, but hey a guitar and beers sounded better then mine. I was home no drinking with cats, lol. Holidays aren't the same anymore, since I lost my brother and father, Seperated from husband for 3 years have to still file for divorce( that was for the best) but hey, we all make it through to live another day. It would be nice to have someone to cuddle at night, does get lonely sometimes. Sorry, I vented a little. Play your guitar, awesome talent to have, music is great therapy. HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!

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User Profile: Sharky85
Sharky85 December 31st, 2017

It's tough to be alone during holidays. But I have tried to cope with it by connecting with some old friends and engaging here on 7 cups

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User Profile: KnezAlex
KnezAlex December 31st, 2017

@Sharky85

i guess i'll try something similar

User Profile: hardworkingApple2356
hardworkingApple2356 January 1st, 2018

@Sharky85

A couple good friends is all we need, and 7 cups, I totally agree with you. Hope you enjoyed your day, catching up with friends is always good. HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!!!

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User Profile: Sharky85
Sharky85 January 2nd, 2018

@hardworkingApple2356

Happy new year. I am happy to report that because of the above two things, weekend passed by much better than I initially anticipated.

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User Profile: SaraK23
SaraK23 January 3rd, 2018

@Sharky85 that' great!

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User Profile: Shouldistay
Shouldistay December 31st, 2017

I wish I was around other people because it's the only thing that distracts me from remembering all of the terrible things I did in the past year. There are only two people I want to talk to, one has blocked me so that I have no way to talk to him and the other one (the first guys best friend) is at a party and I don't want to ruin his night. Being alone during the holidays isn't bad because you don't have people to talk to, it's bad because what you want for more than anything at that moment is to ruin someone else's fun by putting your problems onto them. As human's we are selfish, yet as we grow up we are told that selfishness is something to avoid at all cost.

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User Profile: hardworkingApple2356
hardworkingApple2356 January 1st, 2018

@Shouldistay

Sorry, you spent New Years alone, but as you can see you aren't the only one. I hope you know maybe you feel that you have done some bad things in the last year, but that doesn't make you a bad person, no one is perfect!!!! Please whatever you did try to forgive yourself, and learn from mistakes, and move on. Try to do better, keep your head up

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User Profile: coloringpictures
coloringpictures December 31st, 2017

I'm also celebrating alone this year. When I find myself alone on the holidays, I usually have a huge self care day if I'm feeling up to it. I watch movies and take a long shower. I get a couple chores done. I message back people. If I don't have enough energy to self care, I just stick to the basics, take my meds, eat some food, and remind myself that it's okay to be alone. I think there's a huge stigma around being "alone" for the holidays and I think being alone occassonially is a-okay. Like someone else said here, it's really just another day and sometimes all you can do is make it through. You're not alone...in that you're alone! smiley

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User Profile: hardworkingApple2356
hardworkingApple2356 January 1st, 2018

@coloringpictures

Happy New Year!!!! You said It beautifully, it is just another day, self care is huge, I should have taken a long shower and watched movies too, women usually don't get to spend the time taking care of themselves anymore, very busy taking care of kids and husband or parents, and throw a job in there and cooking, cleaning, laundry,pets ..... ugh. Sometimes it's nice to be alone.

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User Profile: michelleyooo
michelleyooo December 31st, 2017

I am currently in a foreign country celebrating alone (without alcohol) and with a LOT of chick flicks. Hear for you, my friends :)

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User Profile: hardworkingApple2356
hardworkingApple2356 January 1st, 2018

@michelleyooo

Hey girl, foreign country that sounds awesome!!!! I hope you are enjoying it, but the chick flicks are gonna make you sad us girls always watch that and then we get emotional and cry and depressed. Next time action movie, or scary (if you don't get freaked out and turn on lights and double check doors after, I love scary movies, my daughter 26 not so much she gets paranoid, lol) Take alot of pictures, enjoy your tome away. HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!!

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User Profile: OrangeWarrior
OrangeWarrior December 31st, 2017

This year is different, but I normally spend New Year alone. And it does not have to be sad or boring! Go ahead and dedicate the day to yourself. What I like to do is to "exercise" my hobbies. For example, I'd spend the entire day planning and making a beautiful drawing of one of my favorite fandoms. You could have a nice walk in the park, eat at a restaurant you've been wanting to go to for some time, try cooking a new recipe at home, watch a film that has piqued your interest lately, start reading a new book... The possibilities are endless. What is it that you like the most? What will make you the happiest? Reading, cooking, meditating, exercising...? Do it. Dedicate this day to making yourself happy.

I hope this New Year brings all members of the 7Cups community (you who are reading this too, yes, you too!) the best ♥. You all are awesome.

User Profile: kairemets
kairemets December 31st, 2017

I am alone in my room, but I don't feel alone at all because there's my neighbor and his friend talking right behind the wall against which my table is. They listened to my favorite artist just a while ago and knocked on my wall :)

Also there is internet and the ability to connect to people via text form on the internet. I have a couple of channels of communication. And on the Internet there is a certain level of respect and connection that you get from watching videos of your favorite people whose creative content or social content is there available for everyone to see as somebody here on 7cups talked about it. Internet connections, however not real or however distant or unimportant they might seem, can actually be very significant. I probably underestimate them. Can I say, we probably often underestimate them?

I had a call too just an hour ago. It was a person who cares about me and it is always good to remember that many people care about me and even many more wish me well (if that makes sense at all).

Next, there is music and thoughts and all the wonderful things at my home. :)

See? I am not alone at home. :)

User Profile: smelborp
smelborp December 31st, 2017

im spending new years alone. it's currently 12.30am over here, ive had too much to drink for my own good. ive got my dog with me, he's currently suffering through an episode of back pain thanks to his chronic illness and i can do nothing for him except wait for it to pass. life is amazing, truly. i'll be alone until late tomorrow(technically today, but whatever). it's kind of a bad situation i suppose, but i just can't bring myself to care. i'll probably just drink until i pass out or something, doubt i'll get any sleep otherwise
god im a downer, im sorry. i hope you're all having a good day and this next year is good to you

User Profile: BelialKnez
BelialKnez OP January 1st, 2018

Just wanted to update my try on this struggle.

I'm wasted and alone but i think i'm gonna make it, this place just heals me by existing sometimes

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User Profile: PerfectStorm426
PerfectStorm426 January 1st, 2018

@BelialKnez. Yer doin fine friend. Heres to many more new years- hopefully they are better than ever 🍻cheers!!

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User Profile: BelialKnez
BelialKnez OP January 1st, 2018

@PerfectStorm426

cheers friend, may all your wishes come true in the new year

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User Profile: PerfectStorm426
PerfectStorm426 January 1st, 2018

@BelialKnez. Yours as well.

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User Profile: emihawkie
emihawkie January 1st, 2018

@BelialKnez I've spent the last few days playing games, reading and writing. Though i feel pretty lonely, escaping this world through stories and games really helps me <3

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User Profile: BelialKnez
BelialKnez OP January 2nd, 2018

@emihawkie

i'm glad you have something that can put your mind at a better state, wish you all the best in the new year friend

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