No Facebook
My therapist has advised me to stay off Facebook. I usually go on Facebook daily as I find it the best method of staying involved and knowing what everyone's up to. But lately, i feel anguish and pain everytime I see things my "friends" are doing without me. I feel envy, anger, and sorrow at everyone's posts. So I'm trying to stay logged out.
I didn't realize how difficult it would be. I didn't realize how much I depended on it to feel connected to the world.
So im hoping that 7cups offers me some sort of satisfaction of this need for contact.
@Otis0809 - I once heard something that has really stuck with me about why social media can be so upsetting sometimes. We compare our own bloopers reel to everyone else's highlights reel. In other words, we know all the gory details of our own minor failures, embarrassments, slipups, etc. and focus on those while looking at pictures of all the amazing things others are doing, not recognizing our own highlights or the fact that they all have those same failures, embarrassments, and slipups, and just aren't posting about them.
It makes sense to me, given all that, that sometimes it's important to take a step away from things that can make you feel bad about yourself, and I'm proud of you for making an effort at that, while also finding another place to reach out and make connections. I hope that 7 Cups gives you what you're looking for.
Good luck and take care, friend!
Ditto the last post. The great thing about this community is that there is ALWAYS someone here to connect with- forums,chat rooms,and of course dedicated listeners. The self help guides and meditations are terrific too - a therapy enhancement that you can access anytime- and it is free. I know you will get better and better by accessing the resources and wonderful people here- just reach out. A hug from me right now.
@Otis0809 and @anomalia
I've been wondering recently if I ought to ban myself from Facebook as well. For a week or maybe more. Lately each time I visit, I leave feeling sad or depressed. I probably opened FB feeling sad or depressed also, but more sad when I've finished with it.
Also I just learned of auditions for the next TWO plays - from FB - that are next week and I don't know if I'll go or not :(
Platy is awfully sad lately. ............................ ~ Platy
@cyanPlatypus6370 - If it feels like it's making things harder or making you more down, you could always do a trial run of no facebook. It doesn't have to be all or nothing, but maybe just a couple days away and see if it makes you feel better or worse? Experimentation can be a helpful way to figure out what is a healthy influence in your life and what isn't.
I haven't been fully successful. But I have cut back a whole lot.
Though a few times when I have felt truly isolated I've opened it up. Stayed for 5 minutes and left. Feeling saddened again
@Otis0809 I have not logged in to Facebook since July and its almost been half year. I only logged in for few times like 2-3 times duriing these 5 months.
I feel the same way as you. I felt so left out when I see other people posts there. There are many people post about every single details of their lives there, like what they eat, where they travel etc. I'm tired of keep up with others, thinking what to post next. Not that I don't have exciting life, I do and I decided not to contribute to the narcisstic community.
At first its hard to stay away from Facebook but by time I can tell you I'm doing just fine without it. I'm more focus on my goals and the only person I need to compete with its myself.
@Otis0809
Welcome here :D
You can find lots of nice people who will be happy to chat with you here. :) And you can also find path to encourage yourself! Hope it helps and hope you feel better :)
@Otis0809 I can totally understand how Facebook can be a bit of a downer sometimes - as already mentioned by some awesome folks, it's easy to fall into the trap of comparing your depression with edited, cropped happy version of others. Quakers Oats launched a new ad #stopcomPARENTing, it might cheer you up: it's meant for parents but I think it applies to all! I've also found that Facebook bums me out sometimes I'm scrolling through passively, being on the outside...I think 7cups is an awesome alternative because it forces you to share and participate both on your best and worst days :) Keep up the good work btw, I think you're doing awesome
Facebook makes me feel more isolated. When I do post, not only do I feel like no one notices, it is proven when no one actually acknowledges the post. My first thought is "you need more friends". My second thought is "its not the number, it's that no one you care about even cared". I don't share often because most of the time I am not in a good place and don't want to share THAT. But also when I am in a good place, I am so focused on enjoying it while it lasts, I forget to post. Every once in a while though, I speak. Just like now, my biggest hope is to get noticed as a person. A person worthy of getting noticed
@the336oracle .... I notice you! You ARE worthy of being noticed, oracle, and so much more! Have you been a part of 7cups long? It is good to have you! ~ Platy
@cyanPlatypus6370 thank you for your kind words & finding mine buried. I joined yesterday, not long before the post. I searched several engines looking for a site where I could find someone to talk to. They all suggested here. I visited & hit the chat button then ran away. I'm glad I tried again. I found 2 very good listeners that both chatted with me for a while. I am not good yet, but I took a shower after being on here for a while yesterday & even got dressed today. I have only spent 5 minutes in my bed since I got dressed too. I am trying
@Otis0809 Congratulations on going off Facebook! I agree, it can be addictive at some points, and quitting can be hard. It sounds like you are feeling that you are comparing yourself to people online too much, which can suck. Anyway, kudos on you for taking this step, and I hope it works out great for you!
Avoiding Facebook is not entirely a good thing. I deactivated my Facebook and all other forms of social media (except Tumblr) about three years ago, and while I find I'm able to connect with people more in the moment (when THEY aren't glued to their phone) I've isolated myself more than ever before and it doesn't feel good. My workplace has a group chat that they're always referencing and if someone starts talking to me about it they'll stop mid sentence and say "oh you're not on Facebook are you" and leave it at that. They also arrange dinners and stuff via FB and I'm invited as an after thought days later when they're talking about what to wear etc at work. I constantly feel like I'm on the outside. I used to train in martial arts. I struggled enough forcing myself along each week but then they began posting the timetables to Facebook so I never really knew what was going on. I'd turn up to train and the gym was closed or I was too late or too early or it was a gi session or a different kind of class etc. One girl offered to text me the details but she either forgot to or when I'd ask her she wouldn't reply. As a result I stopped going. I also find it hard to deal with my boyfriend being on Facebook when I'm not... like idk that's a whole other kettle of fish. I've tried to log back in but it stresses me out so much, even thinking about it.
Anyhoo, just an alternative experience for you to consider.
Ok, I think Im not the only one with FB problem...
First of all, I quit gamming and then I ran into FB, but I met a girl who is an angel for me, I love the way she is. Unfortunately, her posts were traumatimizing me, I felt them like "get away from me" but all that are mot for me.
So I give up and close my account and I dont feel depressed about it.