Never Good Enough...
Hello,
Im feeling like this since ever...
No matter what I do, I never, ever feel good enough. The finish line just moves with me... I just continue feeling miserable and worthless...
7cups offers this growth path and it recommends small steps... (like drinking 8 cups of water, getting enough sleep)
But its not just that for me... I make leaps. At least things I used to consider leaps... Here are 3 examples:
1) This one will sound wrong since hobbies and stuff like that are supposed to make you feel good and enjoy free time... For example, I like chess. I used to be 1000 elo (rating) and I remember wanting to get to 1400 (also I thought I would feel good for making so much progress, to me then). Now, a few years later, Im 1400 and the feeling came for 1second and an awfully convincing thought creeped in: Meh, so what... You can do better than this..
2) Now, school. (Grades 1 to 5, 5 being the best). I had only one 4, rest all 5s, and finally (as I thought I would feel content for making it a 5) I got all 5s... Now, Im like, So what, whats the big deal... and people there are like Wow, she has all 5s, kudos!... And then I think to myself... What if, the next year, I get a 4 again... Maybe in some other subject. I mean, I think I tried too hard and a feeling of disgust and fear just attacks me - How dare you even think about getting worse?
3) Its summer now, so I stopped thinking about that... Now I got interested in programming so I learned some languages, programmed something I reacted on before with omg how do they do this... And just nothing... I am pushing myself further and further... Always thinking that Ill feel a bit better about myself...
But nothing... I just continue feeling awfully miserable about myself and my life... I researched it even... Got tons of reasons for it, found my own, but no solutions... I just dont know what to do... It applies to things, subjects, people...
I feel like everything I look at from a distance is a shining star, so bright in the night sky... And when I touch it, it just fades away... Becomes nothing... Why do I put out every flame, no matter how great, with just my presence? - this is the best description Ive come up with...
Thank you for reading even parts of this text... I sincerely hope you will find an answer if you are feeling this way too...