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Intimacy Question

Confused197 November 11th, 2016

Does depression impact someone's want or desire to be or have any intimacy with their spouse?

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SimplyBaroque November 11th, 2016

@Confused197 It definitely can! Not specifically because of intimacy, but because when you're depressed, sometimes it can feel like you have expend a LOT of energy to do ANYTHING. It's not necessarily because you've fallen out of love with them, or are disinterested in intimacy, but because it takes so much effort.

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Confused197 OP November 11th, 2016

@SimplyBaroque thank you for the reply. my wife seems to be battling depression and has no Interest in me. I'm lucky to get a hug

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SimplyBaroque November 11th, 2016

@Confused197 I'm so sorry to hear that :( Intimacy is an important part of any marriage, so I can understand how you might feel confused or upset. I think the best thing you can do now is support her at a level she is comfortable with, and once she improves, she'll probably be open to intimacy again. Just understand that it's not your fault - depression can be a nasty enemy to battle :(

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Confused197 OP November 11th, 2016

@SimplyBaroque fyi like your user name! Yeah for the last few months I have been taking it quite personal like what did I do or what is wrong with me even though people have been telling me it's not me, as the spouse it's hard not to think that. they switched her from Zoloft to Prozac yesterday so hopefully that will help. you are correct this is a wicked thing. I continue to try to be patient and supportive as that is what I signed for when I said I do. it's just a real struggle everyday not having that closeness with the person you love most! the insights here have helped to know a better perspective of what my wife is dealing with so I can better help her

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