I need advice (long message)
I’m on a break from my relationship with my boyfriend, but I might break up with him. I originally wanted to just break up, but I decided to just try a break first. I initiated the break last weekend and I realized that I’m not able to handle a relationship right now. I know he loves me, but I don’t love him anymore because I can’t handle his problems plus my own. What’s really driving me up the wall though is the fact that I’m imagining a future with this guy I met eight years ago who I used to have the biggest crush on. I never really fully got over my obsession with him unfortunately, and it makes me sick. (I don’t have feelings for him while I’m in a relationship, but when I’m single [or in this case, on a break], I want him so badly.) He has already proven so many times that he wants nothing to do with me, but I still haven’t let him completely go after all of this time. I really don’t understand why. I even went to therapy for the very first time in 2014 or 2015 because of how obsessed I was with him and how I behaved toward him. It SUCKS! (This guy has nothing to do with my break though; I’ve just found that my obsession has been my brain’s choice of trying to cope recently.)
Hi if you want to hear my advice would be maybe try searching yourself more. Allow time to build you up. Maybe the problem is in you. So fix that's first then think of others. A sick person can't treat another sick one. Help yourself first. I hope this help. If you don't like what I said I'm sorry forgive me. Tq 🙂