I'm going in circles
Been in a relationship a little over 13 years and all I hear is negatively. When I met him I was so happy now I'm so miserable. Enrolled myself in college today was so proud of myself and all he had to say was stop living a dream and looking in the future. Start living day by day. I'll do anything to stay out the house. It's like nothing I do is right just depressed and miserable. Want to find somewhere and hide. I love him but no longer in love with him I'm just here.
@Nellynellz37
I see that you were initially satisfied with your relationship but not anymore. Something changed, maybe, or maybe something persisted for too long. You may want to read about:
- Boundaries/boundary setting. If you don't respect each other's boundaries or don't set healthy limits you will suffer.
- Abusive relationships. Sometimes members of a couple may be abusive without knowing that what they are doing is abuse. Abusive behaviors aren't always overt aggressions. Sometimes they can be acts of inconsideration, dismissing feelings, using guilt or shame to get what they want from you, manipulation, and complaining and arguing, nagging or making you feel bad or unfair when you say no.
- It is important to establish boundaries and to leave abusive situations if boundary setting doesn't fix the issue. Abuse often gets worse over time.
- It is absolutely important to protect any children that you may have from the effects of this relationship if thinfs are not okay.
@Nellynellz37
Relationships do often change over time. It's hardly ever the exact same dynamic as when you first met your partner, however, it also doesn't mean it can be for the worse or the better. I do believe that kind, open, and honest communication is very important when you have concerns like this. By doing so, it will help evaluate your next step. Your next step towards your own happiness.
