Do I really play victim?

I'm 29 years old and all of my life I have felt that I am not listened to. I don't know how to explain it really but here is the best example. I can be in a room filled with people and feel all alone. If I am engaging I feel like I'm an afterthought to the people around me. (Notice the key phrase "I feel") I feel as if I'm drowning in the pool that we call life. Why do I feel this way??

I'm in a relationship with someone and we struggle to communicate. I believe it's because she dosent understand exactly how I feel.... Or wont accept the person that I am and how the way I feel affects me as a person. I FEEL LIKE THE WORLD'S PUNCHING BAG.

Yet I'm told I'm playing victim. Is this true? Is there something truly wrong with me or do I really play victim?