Brain bubbles
It's really hard to decide till which point you're making up for your mistakes and at which point you cross that and just it just becomes a series of adjustments, accepting everything, keeping quiet, getting pushed over, bring bullied into believing that it's completely your own fault.
Think about how much you're willing to give someone who doesn't even have any ounce of respect for you.
@niceGrace3853
Hi, I would like to share my thoughts about what you have mentioned:
- Usually when an instance takes place, it is because of difference in thoughts and expectations of two people. So, merely blaming oneself is not healthy.
- If an instance takes place, recognizing your own faults/flaws is good only upto a point that one brings about self-improvement. But it is never right to let those points or thoughts weigh down on oneself or that others may use it against you. Noone is perfect, and even the definition of perfection is always going to remain relative. One person's flawed could be other's perfect. So, whatever is good for one's self may be defined as perfect for self.
- Adjustment is expected out of all individuals at varying capacity. How much you adjust for the other individual will always remain dependent upon what matters to you, what your priorities are, and the dynamics of your relationship with that person. But whenever something becomes suffocating, a healthy change has to be brought about. Suffering silently is NEVER healthy. Also, the other person merely blaming you is not healthy. The same should be addressed via healthy communication.
- Lastly, what makes one give all to someone who doesn't respect you? Is it worth it to one's own self? Is it a better alternative than stopping altogether? If yes, find a way to make peace with it. If not, consider finding a healthy solution.
I am merely sharing my thoughts. Saying is always way easier than executing. However, I feel for those who suffer thus and wish the best for all of them. 
