New Ways to be Social
I recently realized that I've been anti social my whole life. I'm not good with trying new things and being around people. I often find a routine and stick to it. I would like to seek a different way of life. If anyone has any suggestions on how to be more Social please add your comments. I'm open to any ideas
I'm not the best person to reply to this thread because I, too, am extremely antisocial (mostly because I don't really want or need friends) but I do happen to have some, purely by accident, so I will share how I made them.
Before I start, just know that calling family is very easy to do after you force yourself to do it once or twice. They tend to love the surprise, but texting for their next day off is a good idea too if you're worried about calling at a bad time. Keep up a good relationship with your family in case you need support every once in a while. You DON'T want to be a total ghost, so do NOT neglect family obligations. Familial ties can be emotionally fufilling, though don't hang out with them if they're bad people. Love is easier at a distance.
A good way to make friendships with co-workers/classmates is to text to meet up for coffee, a walk, or a shared interest. You can make life easier by being nice and writing small Thank-You cards for the workplace every once in a while (or for a special event). Add everyone on facebook and set those birthday reminders. Everyone will love you and come to you with their problems for some reason-- just be a good listener and don't give too much advice. You might find someone nice enough to make a genuin friendship with through these efforts, but don't hold your breath.
If you'd rather make friends with people you don't know, find a join a small community. This could be anything, including a class or workshop or anything online relating to some interest. Generally someone will be talkative, and you'll be able to move the conversation onto an easier platform or private server. Making friends with friendly people is easy, though you'll not get a whole lot of satisfaction unltil you join them on voice calls every once in a while.
Posting things online also helps, like on a forum for your sexuality or interests. Though if you post dark things, dark people will find you, so try posting something that would attract the sort of person you'd like to see. Never be afraid of chatting first, the worst they could do is ignore you.
