Your first Breakup? ...Then this is a Must Read!
Breakups are never easy, especially when it's your first one. It's completely understandable that you feel like everything is coming down on you and that you just want to lay in bed and be sad. But I want you to know that this feeling won't last forever and that you will feel better eventually. Trust me, I have chatted with many members whose main reason was to talk about their breakup. Right now you're not convinced, you are hurting and that's OK.
Firstly, it's important to allow yourself to grieve and process the breakup. It's okay to feel sad, angry, or hurt. Don't try to suppress your emotions, as this will only prolong the healing process. Instead, let yourself feel the emotions and express them in a healthy way, like writing in a journal or talking to a trusted friend or family member. If you have none, I am here for you.
However, it's also important to not let the breakup consume your life. Try to focus on things that make you happy and bring you joy. Take up a new hobby, read a book, watch a movie, or spend time with loved ones. It's okay to take some time for yourself, but don't isolate yourself from the world.
Remember that this breakup does not define you and that you will find love again. Take this as an opportunity to reflect on what you want and need in a relationship. Use this experience to grow and learn about yourself. It may not seem like it now, but this breakup may be a blessing in disguise.
Lastly, know that you are not alone. Many people have gone through breakups and have come out stronger on the other side. If you feel like you need professional help or support, don't be afraid to reach out to a therapist or counselor. There are many here on 7Cups as well as in your own community. Talk therapy works wonders.
Take care of yourself and know that you will get through this. You are strong and capable of overcoming this difficult time. If you want to talk about it, lets do it together. You may need a shoulder to cry on. That's OK. I will be with you through this. If I believe professional help (not a listener) is better I will help you get one.
@Justmeforyou
What a beautiful well written post! I totally relate with all the things you said about processing a break-up. It indeed can be quite one of the worst things you may feel in your life: the process of losing someone can bring you to grief. I remember initially the first couple weeks being the hardest, constantly flooded with memories of that person, having no courage to delete all connections, and trying my absolute best to give that other person time and respect their boundary. But I remember allowing myself time to sit in these emotions and process them, think why am I feeling this? I let myself cry on my pillow, I listened to songs that allowed me to put words onto my emotions, and I talked it over with my family and friends. Eventually with time my wounds healed. I may have lost that person but life moves on. You come to realize eventually that there is a way to live without that person in your life slowly but surely. Time heals. There are people around you that still care for you like in my case my family and my friends. Rely on your anchors like them. Treat yourself, I remember going on a shopping spree spending hundreds on new set of clothes and shoes haha! It's a long process but healing does come. You may still have afterthoughts and little twangs of memories here and there, but that's part of life and a reminder of the times you did enjoy that person's company. But they become less troublesome and more even pleasant as time moves. There's always another person out there!
