What do you do? Any Suggestions??
What do you do or how do you respond to realizing that you included your partner in everything that you had in life, your ways of making money, your secrets and everything only to basically get booted out and now everything goes through them. Everything you taught them only got you booted to the side where you have to ask them for everything and even though they dont mind getting you anything you need and spoil you beyond belief, its just now you have no resources or means to do anything on your own anymore and everything that you thought you brought to the "table" can be done without you??
@SocialableSugar88
Maybe some can not relate but i have seen it done.... we share it all and then before we know it they have taken over .....
have you shared your feelings with them? What solution would you like to feel like you are still part of the business etc.
look on bright side some learn your secrets and skills and walk away taking everything with them.
I would like to know or feel like im needed and not just to clean up after him like I'm his mother. I want to feel like we're a team, like he ATLEAST respects and shows that he has enough trust in me with our relationship that if he had a few down days or whatever that I could and would carry us until he was back up again. In the beginning he was doin that.. Now tho it's like he thinks I am incapable of doing that. I've tried talking to him about it but all he says is that he isn't meaning to and that he "knows I am able" because I have done it in the past. But now, it has gotten like you said he has just took over with everything to the point he almost treats me like I am incapable. So basically all I do anymore is follow him around and pick up after him like I'm his mother. The little things I do get to do it's doesn't even get noticed, hardly.
@SocialableSugar88
Set your boundaries / do what you want to .... even if you had some down time you are ready to come back and participate not be his cleanup crew ....
if you want your position back take it....
That sounds tough. What exactly would you like to be doing right now that he is not letting you do? Sometimes thinking about specific moments can help.
What would happen if you stopped picking up for him? @SocialableSugar88
