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Sexually abused and Sad and feeling lonely

BloomHope October 3rd, 2023

A person in my class inappropriately touched me. My current boyfriend saw it (at that time we were nothing). He told me about it. People started to know about it. We did nothing about it. We just stopped talking to him(that person). While I was silent about it, this man spreads that my bf said this to me to be in a relation with me and that we were spreading lies. A year later, this person with the influence he has, comes and beat my bf. My friends do nothing and support this man. People whom I trusted my life with, who knows inside that we were not telling lies, start supporting him and stopped talking to me altogether. I feel betrayed and broken. I don't trust anyone now. The friends who remained with me also started being selfish because being with the influential person gives them a safe spot. The sexual harassment committee conducted by the teachers of our college, even they were on his side and told me not to destroy this particular person's career.


My friends stopped talking to me because of something someone said that is not true.


Now I feel like maybe it all happened because my boyfriend. What was the need to tell me about it 😭 He is a peculiar person whom many won't really get. He is a good person but brutally honest. Some of these people want to do this to him because they don't like him. But after all this matter and going to the police and complaints and being without my previous friends, I am fed up of everything.


I am depressed. What shall I do?


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philosophicalMelon1514 October 3rd, 2023

first of all, i'm sorry to hear about this whole situation and i'm sure you must feel very distressed.


i am kind of confused tho, can you help me understand better?


what i understand is that a guy SA'd you in class and your boyfriend witnessed it? then later on your boyfriend mentioned it to you and the bad dude started spreading lies?

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BloomHope OP October 4th, 2023

Yes.. The bad guy started telling that such thing has not happened and stuff like that. And after a year, when he had made sufficient connections and made people believe him, whereas we just dismissed the matter, he beat my bf.

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bestVase7265 October 4th, 2023

I would be fed up too. It sounds like a really rough situation in which you were ultimately abused multiple times. Does your school have any counseling that you can turn to? You deserve to feel better. All of this is not your fault. Have you considered switching schools?@BloomHope

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BloomHope OP October 4th, 2023

I have but it's my last year of college and my whole degree would go into pieces if I quit now

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bestVase7265 October 5th, 2023

Ok, so what would is it going to take to get that degree done? Is there a way to focus as much of your attention as possible on that right now?

I am willing to help out as much as I can in organizing a doable schedule for you. I actually work at a college in the outside world and have dealt with helping traumatized students. I can't promise that all that I have tried to help managed to make it, but I do know a little about the process. @BloomHope

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