Self Forgiveness

@golfnut4683 Maybe ask yourself, what is the opposite of forgiveness and will that help me?

@golfnut4683

I have real hard talks with myself ..... when i no longer try to rationalize or explain why i did something ...i need to just accept / forgive and move on that i had a choice ... i did whatever anyway ... and no one forced me.

I think it sometimes helps to recognize that we all make mistakes, sometimes really big ones. Then you try to think of some of the things that you are doing right right now. @golfnut4683

@golfnut4683

I think self-compassion is the key. It can be really hard to forgive ourselves for things we've done in the past, but it's important to remember that everyone makes mistakes. We're all human and we all do things that we regret.

The important thing is to learn from our mistakes and try to do better in the future.

Some things you might do:

Acknowledge your mistakes: Recognize and accept the actions or decisions you made in the past that are causing you guilt or remorse. Understand that everyone makes mistakes and that it's a part of being human.

Take responsibility: Accept responsibility for your actions and their consequences. Understand the impact they had on yourself and others.

Learn from your mistakes: Reflect on what you have learned from your past actions. Use them as lessons to grow and make better choices in the future. This can help you avoid repeating similar mistakes.

Practice self-compassion: Treat yourself with kindness and understanding. Remember that you deserve forgiveness just as much as anyone else. Remind yourself that you are a flawed but constantly evolving individual.

Apologize and make amends: If your past actions have harmed others, consider reaching out to apologize and make amends, if appropriate. Taking responsibility and expressing genuine remorse can help in the process of forgiving yourself.

Seek forgiveness from others: While you cannot control others' reactions or choices, if it feels right, you can communicate your regret to those affected by your actions. However, keep in mind that their forgiveness is their decision, and it may take time for them to process their own feelings.

Engage in self-reflection: Take the time to understand the factors that led you to make the choices you did. Reflect on any underlying emotions, beliefs, or patterns that may have contributed to your actions. This self-awareness can help you make positive changes moving forward.

Let go of perfectionism: Recognize that no one is perfect, and everyone makes mistakes. Release the need to hold yourself to unrealistic standards. Embrace the idea of growth and progress rather than perfection.

Practice self-care: Engage in activities that promote your well-being and self-esteem. This can include exercise, healthy eating, getting enough rest, pursuing hobbies, spending time with loved ones, and seeking support from a therapist or counselor.

Focus on the present and the future: While acknowledging your past actions is essential, avoid dwelling on them excessively. Instead, redirect your energy towards creating a positive future. Set goals, work on personal development, and cultivate positive relationships.

Forgiving yourself is a process that takes time and effort. Be patient with yourself.