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blueOcean6753 July 19th

My boyfriends depression and addiction is affecting us financially, physically and mentally. I'm sinking deeper and deeper into depression and I don't want to walk away but sadly I'm fighting the inevitable. I love him very much but this is not the way we should live. Our happiness, joy and our light has faded because of his sadness and addictions and you can't help someone who doesn't try to help themselves. I'm broken at the choice I may have to make but I'm praying for a miracle that he will want help to stop and try harder to take the steps to make it happen. He's an amazing man with so much potential but reality is he's weak to his addictions and there is a huge possibly he will not change. I feel we are wasting our lives away with sadness and depression. Very unhealthy. ð¥º

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bestVase7265 July 21st

Sending lots of strength and peace your way. What a challenging decision to be making.

It sounds like your gut is telling you to back away for a while so that he can get his act together. That may be a really good option. Sometimes the people you love need to realize that they are hitting bottom by being alone for a bit.

He can only find his own strength on his own. I know how painful that is right now. But it sounds like he could eventually find his way back to stability.

Give him clear options of places where he can go to get his head clear, even if it is just a free support group. Tell him that until he is stable that you need to bow out for a bit. Then join a support group yourself.

You can do this and create a brighter future. @blueOcean6753

bestVase7265 July 24th

Feel free to come back here for support any time you want. @blueOcean6753