How do I figure myself out?
Everyone around me says I need to be alone and figure myself out..
I tell them that's when I get the most depressed and self loathing but apparently that's what I need?
I just don't know what they want from me other than to just embrace being miserable.
@Waldicemo
It can be challenging when others suggest that being alone is what you need to do. It's essential to communicate your feelings and concerns with them so they understand how it affects you. Sometimes, taking time for self-reflection can be helpful, but it doesn't mean you have to embrace being miserable.
You can try to explain to them that being alone may exacerbate your depression and self-loathing, and you might benefit more from their support and understanding during this difficult time. It's okay to seek companionship and comfort from others while you work on yourself. Remember, everyone's journey is unique, and what works for one person may not work for another. Focus on what helps you feel better and communicate that to those around you.
@Waldicemo
Some people can do self reflection when alone...... others need someone to work with ......
The biggest obstacle IMO in figuring ourselves out is being honest and trying to see ourselves as others see us... sometimes that is not flattering. when we feel stuck and lost depression grows and it is a vicious cycle. if you have a friend who can be very honest with you ... if not maybe therapy to help you find ways to work through your things.
@Waldicemo
I totally get where you're coming from. It can be frustrating when people suggest being alone as the solution to figuring yourself out. Everyone is different, and what works for one person may not work for another.
If being alone makes you feel more depressed and self loathing, it's okay to express that to those around you. Let them know that you need support and connection from others, and that embracing misery isn't what you're looking for.