how to cope with living in a dysfunctional home
just migrated about a year ago, i now live with my dad (who was an absentee father) and stepmom.
as an immigrant, i'm already struggling with my career, feeling isolated, homesickness, adjusting. home situation is dysfunctional. dad is hypercritical and takes every opportunity to make me feel bad ("you won't get anywhere") and threatens to kick me out for even the smallest mistakes (like not replying to a text). stepmom just lets things happen.
i can feel myself in a constant fight-flight-freeze mode. it's hard to show up for myself and do day-to-day things like eating and sleeping. i find myself skipping meals and waking up in the middle of the night due to stress and anxiety.
i know i should be strong but i feel so drained. i don't know what to do and who to turn to.
@tydaniii
sometimes life is draining especially when starting over or from scratch.........
migrating is a BIG move and finding your footing can be hard..... sometimes a parent like your dad hopes tough talk like suggesting you will need to move out etc will spur you on to finding your life quicker.... he might also want you to seek his advice more that is why he resorts to talking gown your efforts....
most step moms try to stay out of it and neutral ........
what seems to be the issue ... finding work or friends do you have a plan of what you want to do?
honestly to pick and move most have a plan a few just think things will fall into place that only happens in a movie..... if you want support from dad let him help you and feel useful and be grateful for the home you have been provided..... maybe you BOTH thought things would have progressed farther by now but now is time to evaluate what is next.
