How do you move on after being ghosted ?
I recently got ghosted and dating and seeing a man for 4 months, I guess it is a bit pathetic but he recently ghosted me and I am really struggling to be okay, if you haven’t any tips to share I would love that. Thank you
Being ghosted stinks!!!!! I’m sorry to hear this happened to you. I would not be feeling very good about that either!!! Sounds like you are hurting about this…. I would be too. I know it may not feel good to hear this right now… but it might be one of the best things to happen for you…. because it gives you an opportunity to decide if you want someone like that in your life who would ghost you. If he did that to you, is he worth it now or in the future? I can you trust that he wouldn’t disregard or ignore you later on in a relationship? What does his ghosting you say about him?
Thank you, !! It really does hurt a lot and I like the perspective you have and I would like to start thinking like that. I’ve even really trying not to blame myself because I don’t think I did anything wrong and *** it’s a good thing that we’ve only known each other for 4 months it’s better he did it now than in a year from now so thinking like that helps
If you had done something wrong to him, or offended him, he should have told you… or at least I feel that’s what healthy people do… they communicate.
I'm extremely sorry to hear that you were ghosted. Undoubtedly, it's the worse place to be in. Especially, when you don't even know what went wrong, what could have gone right. You tend to overthink and analyze every single behavior of that person who was involved with you and made you believe that everything is going great. Being left without even a clue is rude and painful.
To be honest, I have been there and it wasn't easy to get out of the phase, to begin with. However, life must go on. I reminded myself that I was leading a great life before meeting or even knowing that person. So, when I was alive and doing well before, I can do it again.
I started doing volunteering work along with my hospital job and helping people here on 7 Cups as much as I could. It made me realize that I'm not doing that badly as there were people who were suffering more than I was. I used to imagine the worst-case scenario, for instance, the person used me, sexually abused me, and left me without an explanation. And then, I used to get back to reality, thinking that at least that didn't happen to me.
Every time I had a negative thought about myself (as such experiences can take a toll on your self-esteem and makes you believe that you weren't enough, etc) I did my best to replace it with at least one positive thought.
I also started exercising, reading self-help books, praying, and speaking with my old school/college friends I never spoke to in ages. Also, joined training courses here on 7 Cups and Coursera related to my field – Medicine, and Psychology. In general, I believe that investing in yourself and working on being the best version of who you are will help you in a long run. Wishing you all the best in life.
Love,
-Angel 💜♥️
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